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Topic: So, how soon is too soon to like someone
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Thu 11/01/07 02:02 PM
I really like this person but we've only talked one night. I guess maybe that could be a problem but as far as I can tell the feeling is mutual. Now obviously i'm gonna gonna push for a relationship or meeting for a bit but should I ask or give a phone number this soon?

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Thu 11/01/07 02:03 PM
wow not gonna push*

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Thu 11/01/07 02:04 PM
if you think she feels the same way give her your number... she doesnt have to use it if she doesnt want to... but if she does call than thats a plus and you will know for sure... good luck.

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Thu 11/01/07 02:04 PM
thanks.. ur right.. giving my number is a good way to gauge her interest

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Thu 11/01/07 02:05 PM
Well ask and see what their comfortable with. There is no problem with asking. But do it in a kind manner. Telling them your feelings. Like " i enjoyed your conversation so much last night would you be comfortable talking on the phone with me?" Something along those lines.

And nobody likes to be "pushed" into anything. Wait and see where it goes before you bring up relationship or meetings. Take time to get to know them a little bit more.

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Thu 11/01/07 02:05 PM
I would say talk to her for about a week before you give her your number. What if she turns out to be a nut case stalker with a bad attitude and a large knife?

Seriously, slow down.drinker

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Thu 11/01/07 02:06 PM
I was just one night

Wait a bit

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Thu 11/01/07 02:08 PM
uhhhhhhh wow going a bit fast arent ya big guy?noway

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Thu 11/01/07 02:12 PM
give her your # that but the ball in her court.... i do recomend a cell phone # though!!devil

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Thu 11/01/07 02:16 PM
If a guy writes you on your profile and he is extremely hot,do you respond or just think its a joke that this hot guy is messaging you and delete it.

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Thu 11/01/07 02:16 PM
mhm what other # would I give? and i dont know if I will yet.. I have to decide based on if we talk and how it goes

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Thu 11/01/07 02:20 PM
I hate getting phone numbers right off the bat! and believe me I can be interested and still not want to talk on the phone yet! so don't let that be a deal breaker!

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Thu 11/01/07 02:27 PM
My thoughts are that's a little fast,just play it by ear and wait awhile if she feels the same it won't matter...good luck

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Thu 11/01/07 02:33 PM
I started talking with a wonderful lady from another site 42 days ago. No we still haven't met, we exchanged pictures and all and we are meeting for the first time this weekend. Are there feelings, yes there are. No matter how this turns out i know that i have made yet another close friend. Take your time and get to know each other.... If it works out great, if not . try again... You'll find who you are looking for...

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Thu 11/01/07 02:42 PM
if you have to ask

it is to late already

anouk's photo
Thu 11/01/07 02:47 PM
hey hottyboy!!!
are you overwhelmed by your own beauty??laugh laugh
oh - never mind people..just ignore melaugh

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Thu 11/01/07 02:50 PM
laugh Youre hard to ignoreflowerforyou

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Thu 11/01/07 03:32 PM
Take some time, you've only had minimal contact with this other person.

If you really like someone, time will only make you get to know them better and like them more.

Nothing is ever accomplished by rushing things and Rome wasn't built in a day...

as for the exchanging #'s....suggest it and see if the person is receptive..good luck!

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Thu 11/01/07 04:08 PM
I wouldn't push for anything. Take time, get to know one another. As for speaking on the phone, I don't see what the problem is there. You want to get to know someone, a phone is a good way to do it. Offer your phone number, if the person isn't comfortable calling, they will let you know.

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Thu 11/01/07 04:58 PM
Considering the odds online for dateing if I was a guy I would offer my number but make it clear that she is free to wait or call you from and outside number for her safety. I would not push for her number. When she is comfortable and ready she will call you.
I tend to agree with the number of people who tell you to BE CAREFUL about doing this. There are an real number of women on line, sometimes backed by dangerous pimps that are more than glad to set you up with whatever information you unwittingly give in conversation for numerous levels of abuse. I can't tell you the number of women that I have seen over the years that sucker numerous well meaning and lonely guys on line as a full time occupation.
The advantage to a woman (or man;especially a custodial parent) for getting a phone number you can go to an address line or Google someone and see it the basic information they have told you about themself is accurate. (I highly recommend everyone google themselves occasionally and see what is out their on you. Probably scare the fire out of you.) But what will scare you more is getting hooked up with someone and find out later they are lieing. Or what is REALLY scarey is what they are not saying at all and you would have wanted to known.
For those of you who will get all worked up about invadeing someone's privacy looking at public record's stop just a minute. Think about the value of your own safety and privacy or the saftey and privacy of your kids or dependent parents not to have a LIAR or a criminal in their life. It is your family and your friends who get to help bail you out when you get chewed up and spit out even if you don't care about yourself. If you find that a person is in fact a good person have you done them any harm? You are not punishing a good person you are only avoiding the misery that common sense can protect you from. The same information that a good friend or neighbor would tell you if you lived in a little closer proximity.
Are you going to find out anyone is perfect no way. But hopefully you have asked some very clear cut questions. Like...
F What is your name? Not a nickname or a screen name but a person's full legal name. They don't want to give you a straight answer or say they hate their middle name? Too bad delete them.
R Where were they born? Common nobody was born in a cabbage patch and that gives you a fairly nuetral address to start with. If someone starts asking you your mother's maiden name back up because they want your identity so don't be stupid but where you come from is more about what you see it as and yourself.
I Where did you grow up? Maybe you don't know the fine details or need to but if a person can't communicate something so basic you are not going to have a relationship. Maybe a booty call but not a relationship. There is a reason that most of us know the old saying "the apple doesn't fall very far from the tree" and you need to know what a person's tree was about to really understand them. They should be willing to start showing you at least some of the branches.
E What kind of work do you do? You notice I didn't say WHERE do you work? That is nobody's business up front (unless you really want to screw up your job because I assure you that if you date on line you will meet at least one kook) but if they don't have some kind of work identity life is going to get real complicated and the load real heavy. By the way a homemaker is a job. If you are not comfortable with a full time caregiver as a work history you might as well get it on the table early. Same goes for retired. Medical or otherwise.
N Have you ever been convicted of a crime? Now this can be a pretty minor thing a parking ticket or it can be a big deal. But whatever the consequences you hitch your wagon to this person you get to go along for the ride. Maybe they have "done the time" but unless everyone in the world is ready to let it go sooner or later you are going to feel the hangover.
D Do you have any dependents? Ok most of us think of kid's in this situation but occasionally it can mean siblings or parent's. Word to the wise how people treat their dependents is exactly how they are going to treat you. Get a clue by opening your eyes.
There are a lot of other letters but if you can't make these basic letters this person is not your FRIEND and anything more is probably not a good bet.

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