I don't think there's any secret to it. You just happen to get lucky, or you don't. .

having a pic doesn't mean a better chance... if you're butt ugly, you're still not getting a date...

Well would YOU date someone with a negative attitude? :)


Maybe you need to start off being light - hearted.

Sense of humour can be easily attractive.

Very true. I might love my whining teething child/grandchild but please grow up and treat me like an adult woman not your poor Mother who has to listen to your wailing.

Do you find this gorgeous man as foxy as you find FOX?

If you're being serious, I hope you have a great time.

Probably should save the ropes until at least the second date though.

OH that is lovely.. Have fun..You earned it..

WAHOOO!!

I am happy for you Blondey
Have fun and enjoy

Yeah, I got the same problem :/
Also why I spend a reasonable amount on online dating sites.

Indeed

Hope your date goes well.

I was being silly Blondey. Wasn't trying to get in your business.

I wish you success with your new friend.

Good luck Blondey. I hope things work for you!!!

You go, Blondey!
I hope everything goes well.

Hi Blondey,

I am so happy for you. From the comments you made in the forum, I know that you are a beautiful person with a lovely personality. All the best. And make sure both of you have a wonderful time.
LOVE is in the air..

As far as dating sites go, the great majority of women don't answer messages. Sometimes I think they are just on site for an ego trip. The reason I say that is because most men are too eager to write every woman they click on. On large dating sites, women get more messages than they can answer. This leads to a lot of them believing they are more desirable than they really are. I call it the "big head" sindrome.

They think they can pick whatever they want. And for the most part, they can. But here is the kicker. The great majority of the men that write them are looking for nothing but sex. So by the time they weed through all the crap, the decent guy that is looking for something real gets lost in the shuffle. All of this is what makes it hard for men on dating sites. Especially large ones.


You have a few valid points and I am sure some do get the big head syndrome from both sides. lol

And yes we get a lot of mail but most of it is "useless". Hi, I will tell you later, over the top compliments makes any kind of response but "thanks for the compliment" nearly impossible. They say men need to have the dots connected pretty close but hey at least put a few mile markers in the profile to find out if you are the direction we will enjoy traveling.

I really believe there is someone for everyone; especially on the larger sites.

I can not speak for all women but I think most of us are just looking for "normal" and few things in common. Instead of the super ego it is more likely that we are looking for someone who is looking for someone that has at least more qualifications than being "female". It is more than ok that you are mere mortal but it would be nice if your lifestyle is vaguely compatible to my own.

I can not tell you the number of pleas I have gotten for attention from guys that would go stark raving bonkers if they tried to have a relationship with me because we would have almost zero in common. They are not bad guys but not even close to a match. And hasn't just about everyone on date sites been down that road at least once?

Loosen up guys/gals writing a winning profile and finding a match is not that tough. Someone does not write a good profile then skip them and invest in the ones who make and effort. Most of the time they are not around long. I can tell you that for sure.

Start with a physical type that matches. Sucks but height matters and generally so does poundage. So if you are the typical person your odds go up but if you hide that or want to try win the lottery well your results are unlikely. Put your full length photo out there and be realistic. Nobody is really going to enjoy running to keep up but if you want a physical match you are in the running.

Second be honest about your family situation. If you are a custodial parent or a weekend family just say so. Age matches, even gender, of children are much more likely to succeed. No teenager is likely to want to be and enslaved babysitter and younger kids do not want to inherit by marriage "extra" bosses. If you have emptied the nest it is highly unlikely that you are going to want to "start all over" with the kid carousel. Do you have a dependent parent; there are more people in that boat than you think; be up front about it and team up or move on. This pretty much applies to critters too. A died in the wool mutt lover is not probably going to go for a Blue ribbon pure breed cat lover. If someone does not HAVE pets and a perfect magazine cover home that should be your first clue that the "Zoo" may or may not be truly welcome.

Most of the society is working. Don't be so uptight about gold diggers to admit you have a job and it is a big part of your life. I am not saying show your payroll or give your bosses phone number but most of us know the life style that goes with most jobs. And many of us have ones that appeal to us for a variety of reasons. And they are not always a perfect match but generally they blend for a reason.

And most of us have dietary lifestyles that after about 21 are not going to change that much until forced to. I have met maybe one person in my 60+ years that likes living with the food police so if someone is going to hound you for loving fast food or roll their eyes every time you want the healthy veggies you are going to get on each other's nerves. Start at least with the wind in the same direction.

Not really something many want to talk about hygiene is another. I am not talking about what you see on the profile shots or a date but the real deal. This is a little trickier to match from profile information but at least look at pictures and Skype before you get all moon eyed and then walk in and their place looks like one end of the spectrum of hospital sterile you could eat off the floor to hoarders anonymous. You want a life mate that you like.

So be real put that info up and spin the wheel. You might just be really surprised that your kettle has a lid waiting.
You have just said it all and one keep learning. From what you have written I have just noticed one thing I always do on dating line which I never knew was wrong .Thanks.

Hai

^^^...and this my friend is not the secret....

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