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Topic: how do you become a
adamxa's photo
Wed 10/31/07 07:33 PM
more social-able person?
i think thats something i am lacking to be honest.

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Wed 10/31/07 07:34 PM
just get out there and do it remember the things that work.

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Wed 10/31/07 07:36 PM
Put yourself in situations (safe ones duh) that you don't usually find yourself in. I did that and not only did it help, it was actually fun and you get to learn about different types of activities.

Angelsing's photo
Wed 10/31/07 07:36 PM
Why do you say that? Why do you think you're lacking. Give us an example. It may be that you're just a shy person. Just remember, you have to find people who like you for who you are. We can all stand to make some positive changes, but those changes shouldn't and really won't change who we are on the inside. flowerforyou

bgeorge's photo
Wed 10/31/07 07:37 PM
don't be a wallflower but don't be too over the top either...most importantly be yourself...listen to some music that gets you going while you're getting ready and go get 'em

glitterybee's photo
Wed 10/31/07 08:55 PM
Why not just accept the person you are? :smile: Not everyone has to be the most outgoing, social, dancing on the table-tops kinda guy. If you are more the shy type, thats fine too. Just be yourself.

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Wed 10/31/07 09:32 PM
You could try joining an activity group that interests you.

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Wed 10/31/07 09:36 PM
Well, you don't necessarily need to become more social. All throughout high school i never talked and finally senior year I talked and made a lot more friends then I had all the other 3 years. Just be yourself and talk when necessary not always outgoing. Still, if you see someone you like or someone you think you can get along with just drop in a hi and you never know what friends you'll make.

samanthalynn2011's photo
Wed 10/31/07 09:54 PM
i think it's good to try new activites...I'm in college and i made a lot of friends my first two months here but i wanted to meet more so last week i joined a club and i've already met a bunch of new people who are so interesting and fun to hang out with

Dreamlynn's photo
Thu 11/01/07 06:27 AM
don't wear your "dont eff with me face" all the time like I do. People go out of their way to avoid me. hahahaha I really am a nice person tho... They just judge me by the way I look.

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Thu 11/01/07 07:12 AM
Not hard to do, just turn ya puter off and go take the dog for a walk

longhairbiker's photo
Thu 11/01/07 07:23 AM
Be a clown. Learn some jokes. Grow some hair. Join some groups. Moon everyone in your town.

unsure's photo
Thu 11/01/07 07:51 AM
If you are shy like I am..its a little bit hard to be socialable. I am the quiet one in the corner, but I still always have a good time. Everyone always tells me to "loosen up" and have a good time...I just haven't figured out how to do that yet.
I say go out and meet more friends? You are young and I am sure that you have connections to meeting more females..so take advantage of it. Good luck flowerforyou

kojack's photo
Thu 11/01/07 09:23 AM
The Shyness Research Institute reports that shyness is actually the fear that you won't be the smartest, funniest person in the room. The irony, though, is that a good icebreaker is about being nice, not about being a genius. People respond well when you use a basic overture like, "Hi, how do you know the hostess?" because they know you're being vulnerable and starting a conversation with someone you don't know.

Some people truly are shy, but it's typically about sensory input. They can't receive a lot of input and give a lot of output at the same time, and need a very controlled environment. This doesn't mean they can't network -- it just means the networking must take place in a small, intimate setting rather than a large, bustling room.


Hotchikita's photo
Thu 11/01/07 10:07 AM
i am verry shy and anti social.

i never had friends except for a few here. but the only thing I got to say is take it slow. or it will get too overwelming.

Deana64's photo
Thu 11/01/07 10:09 AM
jump off the cliff and talk to people
thats all you have to do:smile:

TwilightsTwin's photo
Thu 11/01/07 11:18 AM
Take a class at your community center! Whatever peaks your interest!

swimming lessons
CPR training
wood carving
painting classes
guitar lessons

Getting out of your house and comfort zone will help and spending a few nights a week with strangers will make you more socialable. They are in the same boat!

Just a thought

Odlam's photo
Thu 11/01/07 11:30 AM
Twilights Twin has the right idea.

Just get out and get in clubs and activities you think you might like. Not only will you have a good time just being around other people, but you've got instant conversation material for just getting to know people - and I'm not even talking about in the dating sense. But by being in a group like that, you already know everybody there shares at least one common interest with you.

adamxa's photo
Thu 11/01/07 02:27 PM
thanks everyone for your response.
you have given me some thoughts and ideas on what to do,
especially going out to the community center.
its a great reason to use my guitar i have in my closet laugh


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Thu 11/01/07 02:29 PM
Hey just one note for you... If you decide to jump off a cliff and talk to people as was mentioned above, talk fast.huh

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