Do you have to scream "Bring out your dead!"
Call out "Albatross! Albatross!"
Or is it enough to be part of the People's Front of Judea?

Since the site asked me to refrain from
waving my private parts at at the antics
of other forum users... I gotta do somethin'.
Right?

Yes

Invite them to the zoo .

The problem becomes bigger, when you stop believing that you'll ever find another man. You don't REALLY know if you will. It's mainly just you trying to predict your own future. Even I try to predict how my future will be. It's a habit you don't need.

Ms. Blue,

So true. The members who have seriously suffered have pulled out most or all of their hair. It's quite easy to recognise who has had a bad time. It was only a matter of time before the science of phrenology was updated with sub-specialisms. It's easy to train yourself by studying hairlines. Give it a try.

Here is a little something I wrote on the subject (not on a dating site) a while back called 'Today's Odd Alternative to Romance.'

********************

TODAY'S ODD ALTERNATIVE TO ROMANCE

There are of course many, but the internet via its countless dating sites and chat lines has single handed created a new phenomenon which as yet appears to be un-named so I will coign the phrase 'romancing ghosts.'

What I refer to are those one meets on dating sites who wish to engage in a long and lasting 'relationship,' or sometimes many short ones, with strangers whom they either fall in love with (or wish to make their correspondent feel such) whilst having absolutely no intention of ever physically meeting their 'partner.' Indeed they will go to great lengths to avoid such ever happening.

Those knowingly engaging in this new pastime are invariably unbalanced (due to various reasons) and it would be wrong to generalise. The internet is becoming littered with articles of complaint concerning such behaviour, but alas the majority of dating site users are unaware of this modern day pastime and generally consider that they have simply been unlucky.

What can be done?

Ideally avoid dating sites, particularly the free ones such as P.O.F. The free sites are the main target for those residing within a fantasy world, but the fee charging sites are far from being immune.

If one is unprepared to give up on internet dating then make it clear from the onset that you have a specified limit on in-house messaging, after which you require more positive evidence of identity perhaps beginning with an e-mail address, followed later by a telephone number.

The fantisisers are usually too lazy to create a Jane / John Doe email address and will simply dig in their heels or run on being requested to provide such. Not all, so do press for a telephone number once you feel that reasonably sufficient preliminaries have been undertaken.

The ultimate preliminary goal is of course to visit the other party's home. A not small number of dating site users are still living with their true partners!

A genuine person should, if interested, be quickly willing to meet you in a public place, perhaps for a coffee. There is rarely any healthy reason for weeks of messaging coupled with refusals to provide any proof of substance.

So, beware!

*****************
Wackford
XXXXX

Thanks Wackford, point taken.

ps I am on another site which has people a lot closer to my area anyway and they seem to be more real. Already met one, so it's all good.

I do that too! a rather deep bucket of the abyssed "BLOCKED"