what kind of "new" things did she want to try???

Whatever anyboby says IF you want to give it another shoot, do it. It's your live and you have the right to screw it up all you want. If it feels right do it or you will always be wondering if it could have worked.

not a damn thing

need more information in order to draw a conclusion and give any response...

I don't want my ex back or all the ex's before him haha

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seems to me like she wanted to run around then decided that what she had in the first place wasn't so bad after all...don't let anyone treat you like that. also i think it would be very confusing for the children...mom/dad together, not together, together, not together...brenda

whether she loves you or not has nothing to do with anything you could say or not say. all you can do is be yourself and be honest about how you feel and see where it goes from there. No perfect words are gonna solve the situation ... if anything, will be time and ongoing communication .. there, that was too deep, am worn out now!

thanks brenda, you're the only one makein ne sense.

I'm not going there at this time

That don't say much mate....the relationship ended for a reason and that reason will not be resolved over a few times with each other. You both can force the connection to happen again but the original problem will never be resolve, just a band-aid fix. Oneday somethign will trigger the ast and you both will be back to base one again.

What you should do now is to find ways for you both to remain civil with each other so you spend quality time with your two kids. Don't use your kids to get back together, that idea will never work, she probably cheat on you when she is sick of you again. Establish a good friendship with her and you both can get on with ya life and still continue to be parents to your kids.

it sounds like she wanted her freedom cuz she was bored or wanted something she saw as better, and then when that was over, she got scared of being alone and now wants her security back until the next time ...

I agree with bgeorge sin39 and saralo, me and mine didnt have much if any communication at all for three years. She even remarried and that didnt work. She wanted to come back for her security and for the child and because I was good to her, a little bit of everything but the right reason. I dont think she loved me and even though she said it, she didnt prove it and guess what, back to square one. Its really not worth it.

dear xll...just one last post and i'll not be in your face anymore...don't trash your kid's mom to them...think it, scream it to a friend...even if she's pushing your buttons, keep your cool...my kid's dad talked smack re: me to our children and they never had anything to do w/him...he passed away this yr and not a tear was shed and i find that very sad. we were divorced for 10 yrs and i would always ask the kids if they wanted to call or visit their dad, but they didn't..but he would be all in my face about how i turned them against him...duh...ok no more preaching...brenda

You have to think about your needs is she what you need, How is this going to effect you if she decides to leave again and the kids, My ex girlfriend always told me I was to nice and good for her I never thought I was, She destroyed my trust by letting me baby-sit her son telling me she was out with friends she was out with her ex husband, the same ex husband with multiple domestic violence charges against him from her, the same husband she and her son ran and hid from for 6 months. I do not believe I could ever take her back I gave her my trust respect and heart and she broke all of them. Do not get me wrong I hope she has a wonderful life and he never lays a hand on her again. However, when it does not work out I do not want to be around for her to come back and decide now she wants to be with me and act as if nothing happened.

The non communication for a year would worry me. If you had communicated and remained good friends during the split then I would reconsider.

this is my last post here i pinky swear...i do assume you are too classy to stoop to that level anyway...brenda

Thank You All for your support!

I agree with that guy who said....Ask her if she still loves you and try a life together do not follow what we say on this site just be yourself and express what you have inside with her, we are the ones who make a difference in our own life ...go for it !! in this life we can be winners we can be loosers the best about it is that we can get up over and over again!!