Can we fall in love by accident?

Falling in love is an unexpected thing that happens by chance. We don't plan it, our heart just beats on its own, we cannot control how it would feel most of the time, unless if you try to dictate your mind over your heart. But no matter how you try to let your brain rule your emotions, most often it just overflows, love is an accidental force of attraction , uncontrollable and unavoidable.

Since we don't plan it out and figure out how it is going to happen then it is a kind of accident that you met the person you fall in love with...

I give an 8 for the attempt. But a 2 for the total miss. BTW this is a euro crash. Left side of the road. Hee hee.

i am wondering who was on wrong side:).... the bike or the police car:)
one of them was wrong.. this accident could have been avoided....
i would add just as the part of humor... though made.... heels do distract but not the concentrations

Nope,actually the Values you hold,consciously and subconsciously,determine whom you'll fall in love with!

Exactly!

This is another of those potentially volatile questions, especially depending on who's asking, why, and what they mean by "falling in love."

As many have, I have experienced the nastiness of having an ex declare that they "accidentally" became involved with someone else.

After a lot of VERY careful reasoning with myself, to avoid being guilty of deciding things based on my fury or depression alone, I concluded that

* all ACTIONS that a legally sane person takes, are 100% under their control. So no matter what a person might suddenly feel, such as tremendous sensual attraction to a stranger, what they DO about those sensations isn't an "accident."

* this extends to what a person THINKS, as well, in that if you feel an attraction to someone, or have an emotional response to someone, that is not something you control. However, what you decide that the response MEANS, in a larger sense, very much IS up to you.

* After all I've been through, I would define "falling in love" in one of two ways:

1) there's the silly, just for fun self-indulgence of a fantasy, such as we can do for entertainment for ourselves, when we see a movie star or some other stranger that we WISH we could have a fling with, but which we realize we are just fantasizing about, and would never act on;


2) there's more important, serious "falling in love," where we DECIDE to follow our already existing collections of passion, actual knowledge, and direct experience with a person who we already know somewhat, and let ourselves go into the blinding brain-chemistry fog of the "in love" festival.

That's my inevitably long-winded way of saying what that first fellow did, who said "we can accidentally fall into bed with a woman, so sure! Wink-wink!"