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First off, my dad was taking care of his parents. Then he got sick. So, I took care of him and his parents. Then my dad died. So, I moved them into my place. Then my mom got sick. So, I was taking care of her too. Then my mom died. Then inevitably my grandparents died. It was 5 years of hell. I lost any remaining innocence I had. The rest of my family provided zero help and either protested the Cremations or tried to steal stuff from my grandfather due to his Alzheimers. Needless to say I have zero communication with any of my family and I aim to keep it that way. My dad was my best friend and has not, nor ever will be, replaced. He was the only person I could totally trust. I will also appreciate and remember that. The ordeal of being the primary care giver, and dealing with the doctors, healthcare system, nurses, medicare, and hospice forever changed me for the worse. I was subjected to many things I never wanted to be subjected to. I stay clear of the health care system now when it comes to myself. I dread the day I need surgery of some kind. I'm not sure if I will go through with it or not. we all go through to some deepest heartache in life. that often leaves us tad chips on the edges. it's tough to move on at some point when everything seems not so right and dealing all these by your own. but,believe me all these pains and frustrations we have gained from the past. have made us a better individual and made us appreciate even the simplest thing this world could ever offer. hang in there.life has still better things to offer  
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First off, my dad was taking care of his parents. Then he got sick. So, I took care of him and his parents. Then my dad died. So, I moved them into my place. Then my mom got sick. So, I was taking care of her too. Then my mom died. Then inevitably my grandparents died. It was 5 years of hell. I lost any remaining innocence I had. The rest of my family provided zero help and either protested the Cremations or tried to steal stuff from my grandfather due to his Alzheimers. Needless to say I have zero communication with any of my family and I aim to keep it that way. My dad was my best friend and has not, nor ever will be, replaced. He was the only person I could totally trust. I will also appreciate and remember that. The ordeal of being the primary care giver, and dealing with the doctors, healthcare system, nurses, medicare, and hospice forever changed me for the worse. I was subjected to many things I never wanted to be subjected to. I stay clear of the health care system now when it comes to myself. I dread the day I need surgery of some kind. I'm not sure if I will go through with it or not. I'm sorry you not only lost loved ones, especially your Father, but that you had to go through such a heartbreaking experience. I believe that life will reward you many many times over for the good you did for your family. You were needed and you stood up and you did what had to be done. Yes, your heart was broken and it was a bad time in your life but you should be very proud of yourself. Not many people would have done what you did. If I could I'd give you a big hug! Honestly, you must be an incredible guy! |
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Edited by
BreakingGood
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Wed 08/10/16 02:27 PM
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If I could I'd give you a big hug! Honestly, you must be an incredible guy! Thank you! Yeah, I'm always the one to count on when someone needs help even if it's to my detriment. I have been taken advantage of more times then I can count. I have so many stories. When I was younger and naive I thought everybody was like that. After all, it seems most everybody says they'll help out others. But, I have yet, to find another, in my life's experiences, that's helped when I needed it. The common action seems to be duct and run. Then they return when I've solved my own problems. Typically, I then help them with something they are doing. The only solution, although sad, I have found to work is to isolate myself. Then nobody can take advantage of me. |
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If I could I'd give you a big hug! Honestly, you must be an incredible guy! Thank you! Yeah, I'm always the one to count on when someone needs help even if it's to my detriment. I have been taken advantage of more times then I can count. I have so many stories. When I was younger and naive I thought everybody was like that. After all, it seems most everybody says they'll help out others. But, I have yet, to find another, in my life's experiences, that's helped when I needed it. The common action seems to be duct and run. Then they return when I've solved my own problems. Typically, I then help them with something they are doing. The only solution, although sad, I have found to work is to isolate myself. Then nobody can take advantage of me. I understand exactly what you're saying. I am a nice person and I've been taken advantage of because of it and clearly you are too. For nice people? We can't crap on others because we can't in good conscious close our eyes at night from the guilt tearing our guts out. I simply tell myself that what goes around comes around. |
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Losing your parents is one of the hardest things to go through, I lost my mother when I was 17 year's old, my father when I was 30, you were blessed to have them as long as you did.. ( |
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I've been without them over 20yrs now...just lost my only sibling earlier this year...I'm all alone now...sometimes it catches me and I'll cry a bit. sorry to know this...hang in there Max Thank you for your kind words. Sorry for your loss. My heart feels your sadness. |
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I have lost both of my parents and thought that it could not get worse until I lost my only child Scott who was 34. Now I know what it is like to be truly alone. My Son was my only family. I know how you feel. I lost both my parents but that paled in comparison to losing my best friend and soulmate, my son who was only 19. 
god bless your heart Wine.i could deeply feel your paint.just like everyone of us here,hang in there. am quite aware though that the process of healing maybe slow and rough but certainly you'll be fine in the end. 
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I've been without them over 20yrs now...just lost my only sibling earlier this year...I'm all alone now...sometimes it catches me and I'll cry a bit. sorry to know this...hang in there Max
Thank you for your kind words. Sorry for your loss. My heart feels your sadness. thank you Max...we certainly knows the pain of losing loved ones will last for a lifetime . though it maybe very tough but we have no other way but to continue moving forward...God has always a better reason for everything.god bless your heart Max! 
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Losing your parents is one of the hardest things to go through, I lost my mother when I was 17 year's old, my father when I was 30, you were blessed to have them as long as you did.. ( |
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