How do i get over my boyfriend after being together for 8 years. I need to talk to someone and maybe get some advice i am very, very mixed up with emotions. ☺

talk to me , you would even regret wasting 8 years of your life on that guy ...
I assure you !

Contact your local mental health association and get the needed help and try not to date anyone until you are done counseling as this is likely a bigger problem that will harm you and others too Regards

post a thread about how needy you are on a dating site
while using a fake pic as your profile

in hopes that some poor sap will contact you out of sympathy
and his need to be a hero

Call him up everyday and invite him to have sex.
Constantly.
Just keep having sex, keep having sex, until you've done absolutely everything.

You will get over the guy extremely fast after 2 things happen:
1. You don't get pregnant and stop seeing him as a viable mate as your body switches over from trying to facilitate mating to pushing you to go get pregnant by someone else.
2. You get bored and he doesn't excite you in any way and you realize he has nothing to offer you.


...Might take a few months to years.
But I guarantee success.


If he refuses to have sex with you, then you know he's secretly gay.
That will just lead to success early.

There you go.

Sorry for your pain. Nobody gets a crystal ball to see all the pits and valleys that sometimes come with relationships; even if you were some of the causes. Self realization is a painful process. But you can live and learn from experiences if you survived even if you feel a little wobbly about that whole thing. Natural to miss any relationship that lasts eight years of your life; even if it wasn't all great so give your self some slack to to get in a good place about it. It takes time to grieve a loss and it will take time for you to let go of the "boyfriend" who it sounds as if has moved on. Always easier if part of the choice is your own but not required. Profession confidential help may be expensive but at least the advice will have your best interest at it's core.

I would resist the standard poor advice that the best way to get over the previous love is to find another that tries to tell you how they are better because they are not the Ex. He may actually have some value that you really do not want to forget. Just because someone is part of your past does not mean they did not contribute or is the devil incarnate. Getting in a premature relationship while you are still walking wounded is hanging a relationship with a bad job and not about who you are now and will become. Hopefully a happy/healthy person who is good in their own right. Something I would work towards really hard if only for your children's sake.

Not sure that a date site will be that great a resource because you are setting yourself up to be chewed up and spit out by so many people who will see the big old target you have drawn on your back but the reality is there are a lot of people here who do know what you are feeling because they have had losses too. Maybe you can get some anonymous "pals" then just walk away in the autonomy. Not sure how good that will be for you or the person who is the "rebound" victim.

Most are not going to want to "fix" you because they don't come here to fix anyone; well maybe them self or spite an ex that dumped them by finding a replacement but more often this is and escape not misery seeking company. Or hoping to find someone who is deserving of a partner that might not be perfect but is pretty close to perfect for them. It is all about finding someone that likes you as you are and is still willing to grow with you as you change which is inevitable.

I hope you do not linger too long in the angry, bitter, loathing the world stage; some do for years. Believe me it is not worth it. Life is short. Discover what makes you happy. And it is not going to be someone who has moved on. It will be the one who thinks you are the cat's pajamas as yourself.

YOU WILL GET OVER HIM......''ATTRACTION IS NEVER A ( CONSCIOUS ) CHOICE'' SO WHY

DID YOU PICK HIM ??? WHAT FEELINGS DID HE STIR UP IN YOU WHEN YOU MET HIM ? WHEN

IN THE PAST HAVE YOU FELT THOSE FEELINGS ???? GOOD LUCK....

Hi there nobody really understands until u go through it i miss a woman i was with 10years ago i realize now i screwed up i LOVE her and need her back in my life it hard but im going to win her back get back we both can help out each other to win them back thanks and have yourself a pleasant day

same here :'(

U going to win him back how u going to do that

U going to win him back how u going to do that