What would be the point.
Based on this thread you don't really listen to ideas.


I'm thinking that is what this thread is really about.
Self aggrandizing.

Extremely vague story about people you met once before this, then a bunch of stuff about who you are, wanting to help, how you've helped, what you're doing, what you've done, your relationship.

When people actually seek help with problems they are very clear about the exact problem.

What would you say if I came to you and said "Any ideas on what to do with my neighbors smelly clothes? I've done laundry by hand before, and I am spraying febreeze on them, and I can afford the dry cleaner, I have a good job and make good enough money, and I knew their daughter and she and I were talking about stuff and I was very supportive of her. Any bright ideas?"

Would that bring to mind any ideas on how to fix the broken motor of the neighbors washing machine?

I know and I was trying that only but after listening to the issue, I feel it is just a ego issue and small push is required to get over the hurdle. Believe me I am playing as safe as I can and just making Jenny do all the work
If it is workable why not try it once..it may blow on our face but there will be a good feeling that we tried atleast.

Thanks and I do care..but I would require some ideas how to reunite them or make them open to each other. any suggestions would really help

Bro if you read my response you will see that I heard what most of the people said and only when for listening but when I feel it can be fixed then sure I will jump in. Uniting lovers is one of the noblest thing in the world and every opportunity given is grace of god. Now I am asking for ideas to make them open to each other.

As per the neighbor's issues, bro I dont need ideas for those we have services which can be called and make life easier.

Most of the forum regulars are experienced enough to know that it's not advisable to intervene in other people's family affairs Jimmy. Everyone respects your right to follow your gut feelings, but few may want to aid and abet in actions that go against their own intuition and wealth of hard-earned lessons.

Try to get them to remember the good times in their relationship. People start fighting and forget what made them fall in love. Gently remind each one of the others good qualities.

That is so true when people take sides. Never take sides in a family argument. However, if he can get them to vent and then see their own shortcomings, they may remember the good in the other.

Jimmy's girlfriend has known her parents for decades. Jimmy has known them for 2 months . Shouldn't Jenny be the one to know the best way to set her parents up on a date?

Maybe, Maybe not. Sometimes a person on the outside looking in can look at a situation more objectively than someone who is part of the situation. If Jimmy is smart, loving and diplomatic, he may see something she has missed. I still think the best thing he can do is listen lots, repeat nothing, say little and gently remind each one of the others good qualities.

All I can say is you have more DRAMA in your life with friends ect then I have ever seen...in such a short time

If one of my kids dates after only meeting them once tried to give me advice. I would be thinking they were butting in where they don't belong..

And heck I'm a very open minded person and very talkative person~~But have never spilled my guts about my personal problems to one of my kids dates I have only met once

It is best to stay out of other peoples problems until they ask for advice. If your gf wants to talk to you about her parents that is one thing to bring her comfort. But to go to the parents and confront them that could either go two ways.. They would appreciate it or think you are interfering and need to butt out.. Which the later could put a black mark on you for a while with parents..

I respect the contribution everyone makes and because of the experience only I consider asking my doubts in this forum. Starting I didn't knew the depth of the issue and just seeing jenny crying made me weak so my first post was in that direction. But now I understand the issue and it is fixable so why not work in finding solution and make life easier for everyone. If it works I can see that lovely smile back on Jenny's face which is priceless for me

Wow thanks this looks like a nice idea. Much better than dinner or a trip. Thanks so much for your support

Hahaha...I hope no one faces issues like mine but I like to keep an open mind and consider other's idea to make my life easier. Every person is different and incase I was dating your daughter then I would have opted a different way to know about your fight or issues and if fixable then applied a different method like get together planned by your daughter or a trip you and your husband won separately to the same resort, etc...I prefer finding solutions then just living with problems

My thread is related to relationship issue, not sure why it is been moved to this community hello

The goal of conflict resolution is not always to dry someone's tears or make them smile Jimmy. Sometimes it is crucial for people to develop coping strategies and problem solving skills, without you stepping in to save the day.


At some point , Jenny , her parents and the friends you recently told us about will have to learn how to engage with each other in a calm and rational manner when problems arise.

Tears and lamenting are not always a bad thing, or something to banish away like magic.


EVERY ADULT has to develop problem solving capacities at some point. Try not to rob them of that golden opportunity by always trying to fix things for people.

That being said, your heart is always in the right place, and I think everyone here is rooting for everyone involved. Good luck to all of you

Thats true, I also learned like that only but there are certain things which need to be resolved before it blows up out of proposition. If it was a very serious issue like what my friends had then I wouldn't have dared to get involved even if they called me but this is such a silly issue. Ego is the biggest relationship killer and if left alone it can grow overrunning love and feelings. People get blind and don't take steps to resolve issues and here I see a similar case. Anyway the first plan is set for this Saturday so if any suggestion feel free to give..

Well Jimmy!. I think a man of your age and wisdom.. should blindly jump right in between the two of them.. offer up your $0.02 worth of wisdom.. I'm certain they will appreciate any advice a young man like you can offer..yup.. but Jimmy don't hold back.. really let them know how much they're arguing bothers you and your girlfriend.. I would even go as far as giving them an ultimatum.. you two stop arguing or I'm going to stop dating your daughter.. personally I would lead with that one..yup

Jenny is with her mother now and executing my plan...got a good idea from cheechako so made the bookings accordingly. Hoping everything works out as per plan, somehow having a good feeling inside. Thanks to everyone for the response, will keep you guy updated.

Executed phase one of the plan and it looks like working but need to wait to see how phase 2 works out. I think it will work out and happiness will come back

Good Luck ! They were in love once.