im saying it from my hurted heart ..
unfortunately , according to how people treat me
i have to lie to be loved

If you have to lie to be loved then your not being loved it is all a lie~~~~

baby if you are not being love for who you are
then you are being loved for who you aren't

you are right , but im sad cause almost of people became this way

Should a liar expect to be loved?

Well, Rhianna did say that she loved the way you lied.

I admit that my late wife gave me plenty of love whenever I was lying down on my bed.

true , but we love in a world where only liars are accepted
what da ......... :(

90% of lovers are fake and liars , and you know what , they also have powerful expection to be loved and it always happens .

but she is suffered as well

If you want to be truly loved, then you should be true to yourself and to the people you interact with. Honesty is the key to making a real connection with someone. Learn to open up and show real interest to people you communicate with, a two way process of sharing, talk and listen, give and take True and honest individuals will like you and accept you for who you are no matter what.

I think we all lie to one another...to be loved...

I have to disagree I am honest and say it as it is
In return I expect the truth.
I refuse to base a relationship on lies

Sometimes it's easier to say "you look great" thank "babe you look fat in that" :)

Depends who you are
I tell the truth
Honesty is important in any relationship

hopefully they still love you enough to look past the little white lies that initially got you together. :)

initially if you lie to be loved. Any how later the truth will be out and the love turn to hatred, bitterness.

That's gotta be difficult.

Because (assuming you aren't a sociopath) you end up becoming insecure and paranoid, knowing at any moment one of many of your lies is going to be discovered, leading to an inevitable conclusion of relationship death.

Or you come to believe the lies yourself and more of your life becomes just making the lies true ultimately giving your life feet of clay so when it fails you have absolutely no idea how it happened because you can't even see the lies anymore.


You do understand what's behind sayings like "be yourself" and "be honest" really aren't about being fair, or kind, or honest to other people? Really has nothing to do with other people at all?
Simply because you can't control what they interpret or see?
That even though you may be completely honest their own bias can make them believe you are lying?

Saying "be yourself," and "be honest" has everything to do with saving yourself the hassle, energy, effort, and work it takes to keep lies going, to provide consistency so as not to undermine untruth?

Lies = constantly working harder and less smarter.
Honesty = working smarter to determine judicious applications of working harder.


Maybe.
But is it worth it?
You still seem to be sad, lonely, unloved, and worried about it rather than being able to focus on any of a billion better things.
...So where has it really gotten you?


Your world is what you make of it.
If the value and definition of your existence is solely getting some emotional validation from others, that's an entirely different thread.

I really dont think the issue is about lying or being honest deffirent29prince . I think the issue is that you dont have enough confidence in yourself and you expect everybody to like you and accept you. You deserve kindness and love just as we all do , but we live in a world where we are NOT going to get love or acceptance from everyone. In fact many of us will be rejected by others in this lifetime.

What you have to do is know who you are and be proud of who you are. From the things you have said in your posts so far, you seem to be a soft and romantic soul, which is beautiful. But we live in such a harsh world that there will be some women who will think you are pretending to be romantic to get something from them. And there will be some women who will believe that you are honest and romantic, but reject you because they believe that romantic means weak. Or they may reject you because of where you live or your culture. We ALL get rejected because of something, whether it be our looks, personality or lifestyle.

BUT...

Your focus should not be on the people who reject you for who you are.

Your focus also should not be on the people who like you only because you lie to them.

Your focus should be on loving yourself and being confident about who you TRULY ARE and finding people who accept you as you are.

We all get rejected sometimes and we are human so it will always hurt when it happens, but the important thing is to move on quickly.

Anybody that rejects who you truly are, is not the right fit for you, so move on every time that happens until you find that special person or persons who loves the true you.

Dont give up on yourself. Love yourself . Be confident in yourself and one day you will find people who accept you just as you are.

You will always be seen as wonderful by the heart that was meant to love you. Good luck to you

Prince you are 100% right. I always say that, "people of today don't like the truth be it Black or White". We now live in a world where fake people or liars are welcome. As the saying goes "it's painful to hear to truth but it's worth hearing it. But the more you try telling the truth the more people distant themselves from you expecially on these dating sites.