On his question if I can be faithful to him considering our distance.

Dear -----,

You would find that I would respond to you through letters whenever we get to talk about something that I think is very important. It would feel a bit like subscribing to the OliviaVille Newsletter, so just like any other regular, space consuming newsletters, just type in: GAHD PLS STOP and you will be unsubscribed. LOL.

First, I’d like you to know that it makes me a bit giddy when you call me sexy. I am not being coy whenever I tell you I have never perceived myself as such. It makes me feel equally pleased that you are able to think of us together being physically intimate. It makes my stomach flutter that you like the thought of kissing me, or being in bed with me. It is one kind of validation that I think most humans long for.

I can tell you in all honesty that I have never been physically intimate with someone except for a few "chaste" kisses, (LOL) not because I want to wait after marriage (I actually believe a couple should find out if they are sexually compatible before getting married) but because for me physical nakedness brings with it a primal level of vulnerability and thus responsibility. It requires a level of trust that can only be a product of having shared commitment/experiences with each other. Being sexually intimate brings an awareness of the partner at a level you never get to have with other people. Your senses are assaulted with a variety of information: from the partner’s taste, scent, feel, the sight of body parts they are most proud/ashamed of. And so for me it is a privilege. To see me, warts, stretch marks, unwanted body hair, and all, the need to know that my partner will keep the knowledge sacred is paramount.

I am a very sexual being and I enjoy sexual thoughts as much as the next person ;) but I don’t take the decision of the where/when and who to do it with very lightly. I can bare my mind to anyone. I am not scared of my thoughts. But I guess the intensity of pleasure we get from sexually engaging someone is commensurate to the level of damage that can be inflicted to yourself if you have done it thoughtlessly. So the short of it is, I don’t do casual hook-ups. I am unable to separate my body from my heart. If I get intimate with someone, it is because I have feelings for them.

Now being faithful in the emotional level is an entirely different animal. I had a long-distance relationship once 5 years ago. It fell apart after 6 months of being apart and a lot of it I can admit has to do with my level of maturity at the time. No third party involved, just being plain unable to bear the idea of being apart.

I am telling the truth when I say I am very eager to see where this is headed. I think you’re a good man and I would really like to fall in love with a good man. And so I am faithful to the idea that I will make every effort to get to know you and for you to get know me. I’d like to think I am mature enough today to recognize that distance/time difference presents many unique challenges. We can’t immediately comfort each other, we can’t be together to share happy special moments, we can’t just up and meet each other to kiss and make up. And sometimes even when everything seems to be going fine, **** can happen and then everything falls apart. So what I can guarantee is that I will always be honest with you. I will tell you when I feel happy/sad/angry/frustrated about our situation so you and I can do something about it. And I will only expect the same from you.

Whatever it is that is in store for us, I intend for this to be a meaningful relationship. Even if we don’t end up together, the knowledge that we have gained an ardent friend in each other just because we decided to sign up in some dating site we googled one day, is something that will be real great to have.

I don’t know if I’m explaining myself well but I hope this answers your question. :)

Hugs,

Olivia

Hi, thank you for your message. In my belief though, creative writing and communication is not solely limited to poetry. I even think that letter writing is a form of creative and thoughtful communication that should make a comeback in this age of distraction and instant gratification. I very much respect your opinion, anyway.

We have deleted a few post let me remind all that this is not just for Poetry it is for Creative Writing as well..

Not everyone will relate or feel this way but at this time this will remain.

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kristi,

That's good enough for me. Thank you