I guess I'm doing something wrong or is it just me. I can't seem to find a girlfriend for the life of me

well your fairly new to the forums.. just post away all over.. and keep the mutual matches going.. be yourself.. and chat with the ladies.. give them respect.. they all deserve it, and Just be cool. Everything will fall into place.

Hmmmmmmmmmmm.........

If you mean on this site, you need to post in the forums alot more than 11 times to find more women who may be interested in you.

well I've been to other dating sites and it just doesn't work. I am very religious and pray for my future girlfriend/wife but I have my doubts and I think that is the problem. But who am I to say.

if ya a religous fella--then know this--sometimes people are not made to have companion and sometime people are made to have companion--based on god's plan--i would think--geez i'm talking some sort of religous myself--where's that coffee--

This may sound horrible but umm, have you ever heard the phrase, "you can wish in one hand and crap in the other, see which gets filled first."?

Well, instead of praying, why not get out there in the real, non cyber world and start trying to meet REAL people in your own city. Maybe you already do that too. If so, I would say just keep trying or somethng thoughtful like that.

lemme ask you this datboi:
who is more capable of finding a GF; you or God?
have faith my friend- God will either lead you together or he will lead to to a means to help yourself; that is what my case is.

God wont lead you to a battle you cant win, therefore God wont lead you to women you wont succeed with right?

I believe that God helps those that cannot help themselves; if there is a situation that is beyond you, pray and HAVE FAITH.
its CRUCIAL to have faith, and its a faith that is commonly compared to as "a child-like trust", you must make sure that you faith is true and not a "ok I've said my prayer, now lets see if God does anything" - dont test God.

So, if you are in a situation that you think you are helpless and only God can assist you, God will pull through; he probably wont pull through in the way you asked, but however he does it, it will be 10 times better than what ever you could have prayed for.

Believe me, that is my experiance. My prayer was answered perfectly, waaay beyond what I ***THOUGHT*** I needed.

If it's not working out you should try something new.I have been thinking lately that the one I am looking for is a non-smoker and will pass me by because I am.I quit smoking today.Harder than I thought.Just keep trying and believe it will happen.

Just know you are not alone

Thank you all and theemachine you are very enlightening. I was blaming it on me be a cop and how I've noticed that most cops date or are married to only other cops or somebody in the medical or law field. All of your words are very good and I feel very distrout for testing my faith in God. I have wrote poems about the love of Christ but have yet to find my own love and became depressed. I feel very hipacritical and selfish. So I thank you all and I thank you God for sending these people to answer my question. I pray for foregiveness for testing you Father and not keeping my faith in you. I pray that you let these words be blessings and inspiration to all who read them. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

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ok. stop looking for a girlfriend and just concentrate on meeting people and having fun! if you be the right person...someone will come to you! honest...its easier than looking for the right person

I feel for you, honey. THe sad thing about it is it's when you're taken, that's when they want you even more... Don't worry, things will look up for you.

no wurries datboi,

I've been down the same road. Testing God in my faith.
You know datboi, many women will find the fact that you're a cop is attractive; just like they do with firemen.

In a way, you actually have the upper hand over some guys because of your profession.

littlewriter is onto ti aswell; the key is to stop looking for a GF, because ultimately that in of itself is slowing you down; some women will read it as desperation and being clingy; not good.

keep your head up mate, dont beat yourself up so much for testing; we're only human.

I just read up to what littlewriter said. She is absolutely correct. I would have said the same thing but in a more confusing and a "Look what I learned" kind of way. But that's pretty much it. LOL

JUST GO WITH THE FLOW AND MEET MANY INSTEAD OF SEARCHING FOR THE PERFECT ONE
NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER,BECAUSE YOU MIGHT PASS ON THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE THAT YOU JUST CANT GET ENOUGH OF

Okay thanks for helping me out. Now I see where I was going wrong with this whole thing. You're words are appreciated.

Find lots of friends, go slow & see what develops.
People seem think that this has to be a quick thing.
Best things take time to build.