Most people cheat based on sexual issues. Is sex the anchor of marriage or its an excuse for horny immoral people?

It wasn't during the last years that my late wife was alive.
Her medical condition made sex impossible for her, but I had no desire to stop being married to her or to cheat on her.

sex is a part of marriage
unfortunately for some

it is the only part

Basically, great sex is the glue to keep the relationship together... All I am saying...

I would disagree actually for it was not enough




is sex necessary between you and your spouse?
depending on health issues, age, etc
most would say yes

how often, how much? up to the couple involved

when it is absent in a relationship does it takes it's toll on it?

yes over time it does and one or both partners do miss it

can a couple stay together without it? of course

many abstain for periods of time due to reasons such as child birth
or illness or they are separated due to work

....& here I was thinking you were like that dos equis guy. You're a mere mortal after all. That glue comes in many forms, sex being the most temporary imo, for something to last

Definitely, sex is not the anchor of marriage. Sex is just an expression of two people in love. What truly binds two people are love, respect and trust. Only for some people sex is important to them. Maybe because some are just horny, immoral or could be lack of love and understanding in their marriage that's why they cheat. How come other relationships last even without sex, those who live apart from each other because of work, their relationship survives through constant communication and true affection for one another. Those with health issues, even without sex both partners still remain faithful to each other.

it shouldn't be

doesn't mean that it isn't for many people though


its not about the sex, its about the intimacy the trust, the respect, the bonding,,

just that many are conditioned to believe the only way to have intimacy or best form of intimacy is sex


there are more ways to be intimate than sex,,,

I think most people cheat because they found themselves in a relationship that they thought was what they wanted...however it turned out that said relationship started to (as all relationships do) become one where they had to "work" to make it strong and even better. These days, people simply do not want to put in the work for a relationship that they half-assed went into. Bottom line, if you truly want a relationship with someone you will work your butt off for it to work out....and therefore not cheat.

On another note, if you want to spice things up sexually in your relationship, then you simply communicate with your significant other how important it is....cause I am almost positive they will feel the same.

Nicely put Goofball,

Marriage is a commitment to the other, if that's meaning sexual, financial, emotionally, or any numerous numbers of possible examples. It's a solemn vow to the spouse that you will be there for them and help provide whatever need it is in question.

If someone has to "cheat" while they are married, then there is actually no marriage. Because they broke their vows they took at the ceremony.

You explained it best Cowboy.

Sex along with marriage are very important, but is not the anchor that will keep it together..
Like Dodo, when there is a health issue, the other connections you have with your spouse take over and sex is on the backburner.
I am married 34 years and hubby has alzheimers/dimensia..sex is out the window..I am not a wife anymore, just his caregiver..
poor guy, our anniversary is actually tomorrow, and he doesn't even know :(

I agree.

Anything that helps the production of oxytocin and the other pleasure chemicals relating them to their partner and the relationship is the anchor of marriage.

http://healthland.time.com/2013/11/27/how-oxytocin-makes-men-almost-monogamous/

Sex IS the anchor for a lot of marriages it seems, which is possibly why so many marriages fail. How do you build an unbreakable union with all its weighty complexities,when its erected from the fickle muscles of our loins?

That being said, while sex doesn't keep a marriage together, GREAT SEX, (when the other components of love are present), makes the union a whole lot more exciting.

PS: Great joke RebelArcher

Is the dos Equis guy a God or something ...he drinks a beer I don't...another difference between him, as I am a mere mortal, who happens to like that particular glue.. All I can say...

Sex and marriage?

A groom waits at the altar with a huge
smile on his face.
His best man asks, "Why do you look so
excited?"
The groom replies, "I just had the best
blow job I have ever had in my entire
life, and I am marrying the wonderful
woman who gave it to me."
The bride waits at the other end of the
aisle with a huge smile on her face. Her
maid of honor asks, "Why do you look
so excited?"
The bride replies, "I just gave the last
blow job of my entire life."

34 years... Wow... Congratulations..while I understand the reasons for sex taking a back burner under certain circumstances, but under normal healthy circumstances??? Anyway, I am just a guy and my brain tends to focus on one thing at a time... Some say , the only thing.. ha ha ... Yet all the other stuff gets done .. Yes including taking out the trash , washing up the dishes and oh oh .. cleaning up the bathrooms..