I know that this has been posted a billion times....but I need some knowledge about this subject. I have been thinking that friends with benefits means that....we can hang out here and there and neither expects anything.......WHAT WAS I THINKING!!!!! I received a wake up call today.


OK here goes......

From a males perspective..............what is "friends with benefits"?????? Is it....."We can hang out sometimes but, I really just want you to come over and screw me"?????

From a females perspective...........is it "If I screw you...you had better pay some bills!!!"

I need to be "schooled" on this subject!!!

I found out that my "FRIEND" really wasn't a friend at all.

Why? Did he not pay your bills?

thats wot it means

i think its f riends who are friends but also have the opption to have the sex.

The way I understand it--the way it has been done to me--it means that you're friends that have sex. Most of the time, the "friend" part isn't even valid, it's basically just a booty call. And I don't know why..but a lot of guys I meet want just that.

Like Max said but i don't ever pay my friends bills

Hmm, I have always figured that anytime someone said "friends with benefits", everyone knew what that meant. All it means to me is that you are friends, you have sex and there is no commitment or relationship involved.

I thought that was just common knowledge.

here is what i know about friends with benefits. he or she will say hi in public places ( like work or school) wont really hang out with you in a group setting. ( he or she doesnt want anything more to develope) They will call you when they want some action. I have been known to be wrong. but so far this is what i have read and seen happen. you are better off without this person. unless that is what you want

friends with bennies...means friends with benefits like fornication..... as that special word gets bleeped.
there is no bill paying built into benefits. well, that was then, this is now. if you can get him/her to pay bills after oinking and boinking, that is wonderful. tell us how you got them to part with their money.

i guess thats it although i could use someone to pay my bills ,i think thats a double standard next girl-friend i screw better beleive she gonna pay some bills..i think ive just taken my first step in becoming a playa.. ..oh yea she better buy me some bling bling... ..im too old for this stuff..

Sounds like Duffy,justme, and sincere all have part of the answer....

If someone is really your friend, they'd help ya with some bills if you needed it regardless of 'benefits'....

Dang!!!! We had been friends for forever....it seems.....I was under the impression that we were hang out buddies....until he tried to get him some!!!

When we went out....he would pay one time...I would pay the next.

This one particular time...we went out for drinks....he insisted on paying...I said that I had the next time.....like we had always done.......we went and bought a movie that we both wanted to see.....then WHAM....touchy feely. When I rejected him...he brought up the fact that he had paid for the drinks that night!!!!! Never mind the fact that I had paid on numerous occasions because he was a broke a$$!!! I didn't try to make him give up some a$$ for those drinks!!!

Oh, and I didn't need any help with bills....just using that as an example.

funny thing about words, you ask ten people, you'll get ten different answers, even if they are similar, they still aren't the same. the problem is, you're looking for the title to define the relationship. try to talk to someone first, the title you choose should be the one that most closely matches where each of you are at. If you start from needs and feelings I think it will be better, and I don't think there is any one perspective.

Ok, I'll be the first to admit it... I have a FWB. It's actually turned out to be one of the best relationships that I have ever had with a guy. We are best friends, and can go to each other with anything. Our friendship definatly comes first, but when one of us is "frustrated" we are there for each other too. We still hang out like we are just friends, and don't make it a point to be all touchy feely or anything, and we can still just hang out without any awkwardness.

I know I couldn't just have a random FWB, we actually sat down and talked about it before hand, so we are cool with each other. We are both still looking for Mr/Mrs right, and when he/she comes along, our friendship will fade a bit, but we have always remained friends.

Guess I'm pretty lucky, now that I type this all out and actually think about it.

We are even talking about moving in together and sharing the rent on a house. I know i'd feel more comfortable with a room mate, and he's looking to save some money to start his own business up.

in the old days, when people slept with each other, there was more ethics going on, and a man would help a woman in need...beside plunking her. nowadays, when people hump, that is a word that won't get bleeped, it is for the halibut, and no bill paying involved. if there is money exchange, it is for services rendered.....well, i guess bill paying might fall in this catagory. ask jerry springer.

in the old days, when people slept with each other, there was more ethics going on, and a man would help a woman in need...beside plunking her. nowadays, when people hump, that is a word that won't get bleeped, it is for the halibut, and no bill paying involved. if there is money exchange, it is for services rendered.....well, i guess bill paying might fall in this catagory. ask jerry springer.