I dont know but it seems very hard to come across such a thing anymore, a good friendship between a Guy and a Girl based on respect, admiration and the simple but wonderful enjoyment of sharing time with a member of the opposite gender without having to include the sexual aspect.

It does seem that everyone on a site like this has come back for more punishment after their previous failed relationships only to go down the same road and probably make the same mistakes while thinking they will find the love of their life yet again and that everything will be perfect and the person will be perfect in every way, hey hate to say it but it doesnt quite work that way most of the time.

I believe that most relationships have a limited lifespan it seems to be how we are but more is the case when you throw intimacy in to the mix as the dynamics of the relationship change considerably including the expectations, wants and needs.

Hey not knocking anyone for trying to find love it's in all of us to seek such however loving and being loved comes in many ways which includes not having to find a love that has to have what many might feel are all of the traditional components.

Hey maybe as i get older i see things in a simpler way or perhaps i just want things to be simple?

Anyway would love to see some views on this because there will be differing points of opinion.

Lastly i would love to hear from any Women direct should they have a similar outlook on this PM me to chat, thanks : )

Awesome analysis ocenview477! Your perspective sums it up perfectly which is where I've been for some considerable years.

Awwww....
This could end up being the deep and meaningful Aussie guy thread....
See we are sweet and gentle on the inside....

Oh man, you didn't spread that towel out
behind you to dry properly, we can go nowhere :-(

Welcome, anyway :-)

I am not so sure about this since I have many male friends that I have had for over 20 years. We have a great time when we get together.



Really "everyone" I am going to take exception to this statement...Not all of us do this. Some of us take time to heal and learn from past relationships before we jump into another one. Some of us actually come out here not looking for anything, but the social aspects of it.

I met my BF out here, but neither one of us was looking actually took us by surprise. Neither one of us expect or want the other to be perfect that is too bloody hard to achieve. I still have some great male friends from this site that mean a lot to me.




I believe if you go into a relationship with the expectation of it being for a limited time you are shooting yourself in the foot. I much prefer to enter into a relationship thinking I am going to enjoy this journey and not worry or wonder about how long or where it goes.



I am glad you aren't knocking "love" I am left wondering if you found yourself growing to love someone that would include relationship intimacy would you run or embrace it for the true miracle it is. Personally I think your outlook to me is a lot more complicated than mine but each to their own.



You are absolutely correct there will be many different opinions on this.

Welcome to Mingle
Best of luck to you.