i do not mind compliments- but show me you are interested in more than just the way i look.
being attracted to someone is great, but short term- what is in the inside will keep you around

Absolutely,
and by find beauty in my flaws... it was an invitation to get to know me better, ask me questions dont talk down to me because i didnt say here are my flaws, now find me beautiful...

Holly -- Where you wrote:

"How about a hello, my name is, and I i noticed your profile because...Common curtisy does pay off!"

Well, no, it doesn't. I have tried that approach a number of times and it simply doesn't work here.

I am not one to ever send anyone something forward or suggestive or anything of that nature. But "friendly and courteous" gets no results either, so I don't even bother writing to anyone first anymore. Now that I've been here awhile, plenty of people write to me, so it's not a problem.

But please understand that, on this site -- in my experience, anyway -- common courtesy means about as much as that gum wrapper in the street.

awe, Im sorry.
I wish people could all be nice people but I guess some are just stuck in their ways. :)
I always write people who write to me back.
I believe in common curtesy.

Holy I am w/ you on this.....I had a first email from a guy that said he was in love w/ me... Never even met him in the forums.......do girls really fall for that? Needless to say that is one of the emails I never responded to!

theres some truth in all this. common courtesy does have its place and we all want to be found attractive to others for more then our appeaqrance. but its hard sometimes to get beyond what the eyes see and the mind first captures. a profile, to know someones, requires going over a few times and digesting it. most people in this world won't/don't take the time to do that.

They just don't know how to do things. I personally think it's rude to just go up and say that to someone. I much rather start by a simple PM being a bit interested.

lol well its nice to see that some guys know how to play my game, after all isnt dating all a game?
I guess it just depends on the players and the set of rules.
:)

I can understand both sides, I guess Im just biased to mine.

everybody is biased to thier own rules. and for the most part everyone wants to control what is going on. the goal is to develope a relationship that avoids both of those. when you can do that, your half way there and are actually building on a relationship that if everything goes right is one hell of a journey. its just getting to the journey that is hard.

I hear that lol.
I think tho, im here just for fun really im not expecting anything grand.

if you take it as fun, with no expectaions then you'll be fine and may be one day here or somewhere else that journey will hit you in the face. thats what i'm waitinf for.

The friends requests without no contact prior...
Who adds me as a favorite without no contact prior...
That is disturbing.....

Those who visit the profile multiple times and no contact...
Thank you for that lack of contact.... lol

And for the dweebs whose emails of grace(lack of), flattery(can we say player) and wanting to have my children as a great first impression earned you the esteemed "Block User" category

Friendship is key in any relationship....

I think the attitude is important...if you whine about he did this, she did that, I am doing this wrong, guess what? You got your wish....and it will continue that path until YOU change your own vibrational outlooks and expectations of reality vs. fairytale.

Thoughts become things......

wEll then beauty can be changed but intelligence always stays the same.

Yokoke is right, there are some things people should ASK for first. I remember high school and all the dating games we played, didn't think it was like once you grew up.

Several have looked at my profile but few have written, the emails I've written mainly go unresponded to. Even if I wasn't in to you, I would write back and say something to the effect of thanks but no thanks.

At least the people on this site don't send me porn links, ask for nude pics or show me some that I really don't want to see (not all people should be nude online).

Hollygirrl, you seem like a cool person, hang in there and don't rush into anything.

I don't see it as a game. But I like it when the girl wants to play a game. (Super Smash Bros. Melee please... XD)

sounds mean, but i go through my friend's list every now and then..if i never talk on post or email that person- i delete them. my friend's list is just that...my friends, not a collection of numbers/people.

Joyce

Damn, I knew I was missing a friend and couldn't figure out who it was.

Joyce

Just wanted you know, I only talk to my best friends maybe once a year

mike-- whatever, i would never delete you!!!!!!!!