You are free to do whatever makes you comfortable but most people will not approach you without one. It is what it is :)

I dislike it when a woman's main profile image looks as if she just got out of bed and hasn't had any coffee yet.

If a woman wants to make a good first impression, then she needs to select a main profile image that will do just that.

There are many men who look unkempt in their pro pic too David. I agree with you that everyone should make an effort to make a good first impression

Yeah, but I don't care about them because I don't swing that way.

Sorry, but I disagree. I've read quite a few articles on writing profiles and what to put for your user name. Many of them say to use your name to ensure that people know who you, which shows you're a real person. Granted, some of them are scammers, but not as many as you think. I put my name and really am a widower. That doesn't mean I'm going to ask you for money.

I hate it when people describe themselves as “chill."

My feeling is that a good photo is no different than looking decent in the real world. You meet someone in public and you are caught initially by something in their look, and foer each person that part is different. It is no different on line, but definitely more important because you can't see the way they act, carry themselves, their speech, and that makes it only visual on line.

You have to capture them with a clear and decent photo (doesn't have to be professional), that is appropriate, in good lighting, and showing your eyes and a smile doesn't hurt. I will fully admit for me that I look at how they are dressed, it doesn't have to be fancy or sexy, but tank tops, bikinis, old ratty t-shirts don't work. Then the very first thing I look at are the eyes because those are what reveals most about you, so why would you hide them? Second is their hair, not so much the color, but for me is it clean and combed or is it ratty or wild, and for me longer is good.

If you don't look like you care about yourself, don't put a little effort into your photo,and don't show the good side of yourself, then chances are people are going to move on to someone who does.

I think there is a fine line with this one. I see no problems putting your first name or nickname in your profile name and yet I have seen whole names in profiles I am like whoa too much info and it is even abit dangerous to put that much out there on the internet.

I go by Rains in the real world and on the net.
Heck if I see or hear my first name here or in the real world I immediately think Crap I am in trouble...


I think for me one thing that is a huge turn off is a guy standing nude and he just barely crops so we don't see the entire junk.. I mean if you are willing to do that on your profile I am passing it by rather quickly.

Well im recently new here at the time of this writing, but id have to say that my personal turn off and pet peeves are girls who are *******. Im sorry to be so blunt but i have a Rule and its this, No matter HOW HOT, Sexy, or Attractive a Girl or Woman is or Beautiful she is, if shes a ***** then im not gonna be attracted to her. Also another Pet Peeve that i have is, Fakes. I hate girls who are fake, i cant stand someone who isnt Real, those are my Pet Peeves. :)

I read a lot of profiles yesterday , and at this point, Im really grateful that so many of them are so crappy.

It makes the process of elimination a hell of a lot easier..

Well thought out and properly written profiles are a rare treat at this site and I don't take them for granted :)

Its shocking to me how many people dont understand.the significance of .presentation in the 1st impressions that we give off. You explained it well graygentleman :)

Double post

Hello, this is my first post in this forum. There are a lot of things that can turn me off in others' profiles, but the worst I came across so far is rejecting people from certain geographical areas. Furthermore, they reject very large geographical areas, not small ones! I came across a profile in which it is said "Asians don't waste your time", but Asia is populated by billions of people that can be extremely different one from another, how can you say a thing like that?

So far, I have never read "Italians don't waste your time", but even if it's not my area, it's the same. A women that is so close-minded that she thinks that people from a certain geographic area are all unsuitable a priori, then definitely it is not my woman. Another thing is when you have a preference for certain geographical areas, I also do, and when you prefer to get in touch with someone close to your place.

I can't quote from my phone...sorry

Hello and thanks Peggy. I agree a least fill out and put a little thought into the written profile. Nothing makes it easier to move on than no interests or knowing you have a job, except for maybe tell you later.

Guilo I am not totally certain but some are blocking geographical regions because they don't want a long distance relationship, or they can't afford or don't want to travel. There is not really a good way to express those things without it making an upbeat profile look bad. I agree that saying Americans, Asians, or any other descriptors don't waste your time is a big detractor. Maybe in reality they had one to many bad experiences previously with others from that descriptor, and instead of just saying no thanks to the many messages a women is likely to receive, she opted to put it right in the profile. Just the first two things that came to mind when I read your post.

Welcome to the forums, and I am sure you will meet some great people on the forums!

I guess i'm trying to figure out what a perfect photo might be and if someone post there academic achievements why that might be considered a turn off?

I don't know whom you are disagreeing with.. but
nice to meet you widower NateShea. Most of us use our first
name or second or third or nicknames simply because they are
easy to remember.

Welcome to Mingle2