What about mail from someone who doesn't have a picture of their self ? It makes me wonder is he married or hide something. What do you think ??

oooooh I tend to think people are full of bullsh*t excuses as to why they cannot post a pic

personally, I do not answer a message if they do not have a profile pic
unless it is from someone I consider a friend from the forum

Some people have legitimate reasons for not using pictures of themselves on social sites.

OK. LIKE WHAT ??

Being a current or past employee of law enforcement, including child protective services.

Being a current or past witness in a trial that results in the incarceration of a gang member, mafia member, other violent felons.

Being the past or current victim of ongoing stalking behavior.

Being the past or current victim of domestic violence; including childhood sexual abuse.

Being a current or past member of the military who have served active duty taking down or incarcerating enemies of the state. Outside our borders are active posting of dead or alive bounties.

Being a famous person or their off spring or ex spouse.

Being the sibling or adult child of the wealthy.

A corporate whistle blower that at times closes down businesses and put people out of work.

People who work or volunteer in programs for the homeless, mentally ill, or other less popular minorities. To name a few.

Oh yea anyone who does not want to be randomly recognized for posting their personal opinions on a very public web site. Especially if they do not want to be avoided by those who want to date privately and not have their dating said posters gossiped about.

.. personally I'm just shy... well not really.. but I am a international jewel thief.. it would not do me well for anyone to see my face..yup..

Darling I need some new pearls. lol

When I was new here on M2, I used to reply to every single email I received. The ones without profile photo, I usually asked why they didn't have profile pics. The answers I received were lame or total bullsh!t. Now I only answer emails from forum friends and those I might be interested in.

Mingle2 is a free dating site. And because it is free, there are a lot more unscrupulous members who are here to troll, scam or bullsh!t around, than in other dating sites that you have to pay to join. But, there are also wonderful people here and you can find many of us in the forums bullsh!ting around. lol

So, to answer your question... yes, I also wonder if those without profile pics are married or are hiding something... like they might be Batman or Wonder Woman.

Beware of people without profile pics...

After 20 year on dating sites I have learned that there is a direct correlation between a close up of my face and the lack of responses/messages I receive.

My standard response to no photo Equals no response. I don't need drama in my life and if someone is not as invested in the process as I am then why bother.

Someone who has to blow off the process of getting to know me here? Well nobody is holding you here. You are easily replaced.

Someone who wants to play games arguing is not worth my time. I went through a divorce to avoid that mess; why would I take it off a stranger.

I had pics, but they have been deleted by admin. They were of me, honest.


And, I am Batman.

I do believe that the above-quoted post contains a typo.

funny when I first joined in forums I noticed many of the regulars did not have a real pic of themselves and it seemed to be an acceptable thing to do if you were not really interested in dating but just wanted to hang out and post

That's because they were in the Witless Protection Program.

Yeah, it didn't bother me either. A picture of a flower or whatever will still give an impression of the person's interest and vibe. What we got now is totally meaningless, and as far as I'm concerned will only stop people from contacting each other.
If it were my forum, the only rule would be that the pictures used shouldn't be disturbing. For instance I am glad that the evil and bloody looking avatars that some regulars used have gone. I do find those very unpleasant and disturbing.
Other than that ... a picture of flowers says more than "Ask my photo" ..

I think if they just want to chat and never meet, it's pointless to have a picture up, and is actually a bad thing.

I mean

You don't own your profile.
As soon as you post anything to another persons (business) website, you lose all rights and control to it.
TOS don't really protect you, they only offer the illusion of privacy and security. They're mostly to protect the website, not you.
And they can be changed at any time to be whatever they want.


But, if you want to meet in person, date someone, I think it's stupid not to have a picture up and there's no reason not to have one.

Pictures give people a false sense of security that is necessary to go forward with actually meeting.

If someone in the grocery store came up in a big black box and started hitting on you it would be uncomfortable and weird with attention placed on the lack of being able to see the other person and wondering what's going on.

People need their illusions of control, safety, security, normalcy, norms being accepted.

Having a picture helps that so it can be glossed over and taken for granted.

If they don't have a picture and they want to meet they aren't necessarily "hiding" anything, but they are actively working against providing any sense of comfort or security to move past a meaningless hurdle.
It causes bad publicity. Like that Lebouf actor showing up with a paper bag over his head. It forces attention to a negative quality when the only way to be successful is highlight the positives.

Not that I care whether anyone thinks I'm legitimate, but just adding my own reason, for not putting a photo on my public dating profile. I'm sure quite a few of my neighbours go on dating sites, and I wouldn't want all the attention that comes from gossip. These are people I have to pass on the street, where I live. As if there isn't enough public scrutiny in this day and age. I'm not someone who likes to be in the public eye. I'm sure they would feel the same. This is exactly why I'd hate to be famous. Someone bumps into you, and before you know it, you're in another gossip column, or news headline. No thanks. Don't get me wrong, I'm a very sociable, friendly woman, yet I couldn't bear the thought of any of my neighbours pointing and laughing at my profile on some dating site. I'd never live it down. In fact, once their gossiping started, I'd probably want to move out of my home. There's only so much publicity I can take. I guess I could date a famous person, but I'd be making sure I was going places where me and him were hard to track down. That's no way to live.

Choice is a beautiful thing...