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ever since i relocated from Fort Worth 2 years ago I have had this wonderful friend-- he is married, but he offers me advice and support. We only email-- never in person because i told him he was married and that is not what i want. he told me today he would soon be divorced. should i stay away or move forward (after the divorce that is)?
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i truly aint this deep but stay for awhile
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After the divorce go for it!!!! You have nothing to feel bad about as you have behaved in a totally appropriate manner. I say go for it as you only have one life so what have you to lose!
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I don't know what to tell you sweetie, give it some time, you don't want to be a rebound
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I think stay away until you see divorce papers. Then there would be nothing wrong with progressing w/ your friendship.....maybe more.
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take it slow darling
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Deffinately agree not to move forward unless you see
divorce papers... Goodluck |
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Ask to see the divorce papers and the Go For It!
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i think you are getting some really bad advice from these people
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hupuppy~ why is it bad advice?
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because I dont think she has explained enough about the situation for any of us ot give her good advice
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Come on Hupuppy you already stated that you were not deep enough for this conversation! Now you want to step in and slam our advice? LOL....go back to the shallow end of the pool
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Stay away! The emotions from the divorce are at an all time high. You do not want to be transition woman.
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Well Joyce I don't really know the whole picture there, but it took me a long time after my divorce until I was ready to get involved again. I'm not so sure that getting out of one relationship and right into another is going to work at all. I would be very careful about that. Don't rush into anything just because you want a relationship.
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ohhhhhhhhhh go slow........very slow.....he just got out of a relationship and needs time for himself to heal.....be friends with him, and if things transpire, then maybe look at him that way........
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Joyce if he is such a wonderful friend, then support him as a friend, through his divorce...do they have kids?
Is there a custody, access issue, property settlement? He will need your support as a friend, more than he will need a woman who is ready for a relationship, whether he is or not. |
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thank you Jess
they have kids, however from previous marriages- i encouraged him to work it out with his wife, that was 2 years ago. we email back and forth every now and then about our kids etc. and different problems. he has always encouraged me. he said today he was not going to be married soon, however i would never even think of encouraging a divorce or anything like that. |
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not looking for anything to happen real soon, not even sure i would want it to-- just wanted everyone's opinion
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a divorce is a hard thing to go through i have been through one and dont want to go through it again that was 6 years ago but besides that women always say are there any good men out there i say are there any good women out there that can love anymore
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Joyce, be his friend. If you dig him that way, wait for the papers to come through and him to have his rebound thing.
Or do whatever your heart tells to you do. Either way you won't be wrong. |
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