Hi,

I'm here happy to meet people (including to make friends)
I got a Match from an older lady....and yep the age gap is too great for any possible dating...but she is here also happy to make friends.
Looked at her profile and she seems like a REALLY cool person that I'd be totally happy to hang out with

I'm pretty sure we both want to talk. Eg we ARE now Matched, but her settings (presumably set for dating) don't permit contact!
Lol. How do I get around this? Is it possible for Admin to check with her and maybe give me an exemption for the age settings?

No.
They are there to ensure privacy.