my sister wanted to start a long distance relationship so i told her to ask this guy she was interested in and he kinda shot her down now what do i do to help her thhey have been tlking for quite some time and he is sweet and she is too now she wont talk to him or me either one i feel so bad becasue i am the one who done this please help me

Whoa...hold on a sec. Your sister liked a guy, you encouraged her to ask him how he felt. She did and he didn't feel the same, and this is now your fault? Look, I have a sister and I would love to shield her from the world sometimes but that isn't my job. This one isn't on you. It sounds to me like it just didn't work out and that's the way it goes sometimes.

Good luck.

Drew

Your sister will come to her senses sooner or later. Besides your most likely her only sister she has and your family that's something no guy can ever take away from any one person etc.

I guess the best thing is to do is giver your sister some space and if you already said your where sorry then I'm sure she will forgive you in due time.

Also if you haven't yet said you where sorry then maybe you should start with that first and see what happens from there.

Best of luck.

If he doesn't like her in that way, maybe its better that she finds it out sooner then later! How is this your fault? Maybe you saved her a bigger heartache!! This is not your fault and you can not protect your sister forever.
I think what you need to do is tell your sister to move on and find someone that feels the same way she does! There are way to many single people out there to worry about just one.
Unsure

long distance relationsnips take a lot of work. and heaps of trust and theres a lot of wish you were here and oh me so lonely. so think about it. its nice to have someone who cares but so much nicer when they are only afew minutes( an hour tops) away.

i really don't understand how that would be your fault..you just encouraged her to tell him how she felt..it's not like u told him to shoot her down..i just don't get it..just give her time, hopefully she will come back around.
Becca

Ihave seen lots of long distance relationships when I was in the ARMY, and my experience is they dont last.

well see they like each other but she was afraid to ask him and i hounded her to ask him but he said no kinda

We are all responsible for our own individual decisions. While we may incorporate input from family and friends, bottom line is we decide.

You are hereby exonerated from any wrong doing and get that guilt monkey off your back NOW!! .... AND if your sister wants to play the blame game on ya, fling monkey poo at her LOL

She needs to try more sites because there are people out there, she needs to find the one for her and sometimes as adults, long term relationships, reaching out to others and other things in life require stepping outside our comfort zones.... you gave her the slight push in encouraging her to try it and that is great...push harder ((just kidding I tease))

Keep the vibes of positive thoughts flowing for you and her...

Long distance relationships do work, but it involves several factors which can be seen in other posts regarding distance and LDRs...

Bottom line iluv2sux84 go easy on yourself, give her time and if she still acts pissy a few months down the road....fling more poo LOL



Good Luck

iluv2sux84 forgive yourself, it wasn't your fault.

see no one understand my sister was in an abusive relationship for years and got out after he sliced her throat and she hasnt been with a man in a long time ad this guy is wonderful to her and she has fallen for him and he doesnt know what happened to her and i am afraid that when he sees her he will walk out on here and she is afraid too

I am glad that your sister is out of that abusive relationship, and love is the absence of fear. There are no easy answers or group solutions, but I think she is very lucky to have you in her corner. She will come around.

As far as the situation on your sister... she most likely has some sort of co-dependency issues to date if she has not saught help or counseling due to the domestic violence that occured previously.

Yes it is hard to put your heart back out there when situations like that do occur, heck you don't even need a situation violent like that, normal life can be hard, but at least she gave it a go and that is the first step in becoming more independent and being able to trust herself, so if this guy she does like now decides that yeah maybe he does like her, let her know to go slow or at a pace that is both comfortable to them.

As far as the neck issues and scarring.... injuries of that nature that are visible forthright, she has a couple options, one, tell him or two, send him a picture so he sees it and maybe that will give them a chance to discuss it... but honestly if a damn goober bails on your sister because of a scar of that nature and doesn't look past the package and see her soul, then he was never worth it and she once again needs to move on...two snaps and a slow circle z z 0 and fling the poo his direction

well ty i hope so s she and him are talking now but i dont knwo whre it will go from there

communication is the key,, talk to her and tell her how you feell
she is your sister and Im sure she loves you

I am need of help too.. preferably a woman.. who doesn't want to make fun of me.. I am in a serious position.. maybe someone I know can help me.. I really don't wanna post about it in the forums.. I just need outside advice.. and I tried to go to sleep and the person I was talking to got off because they thought I was going to bed..

sorry to hijack your thread.. I will just post my own.. good luck with your sister.. I hope everything works out for the best.