If and when you find someone to be with from this site or in real life? Would you call it quits for your online flirting and dedicate your time with that person? Or are you hooked on this site too much? Will you try and handle your problems on your own? Or will you spout out your troubles here with a possibility of being persuaded to break up with your partner for another here?

The reason why I ask this, is because I noticed a lot of flirting. How much of it is real? When you show interest, are you serious? Or do you just take what you can get? I just want to hear responses and what you would seriously do. That way if you caught the eye of someone, they can put you to the test if the feeling are mutual.


*** If this is already a topic thread, then forgive me. I don't have all day to sit here and filter through them all ***

I already know some people will disagree with this but, if you happen to find someone from here or anywhere and begin dating them, that should mean an end to the flirting. For me that is the way it would be because I consider "flirting" a big problem if I am in a serious relationship with someone.

Alot of people say flirting is just "fun and games" but flirting has probably caused more problems than people recognize.

When I show interest in someone and flirt, it's very real. I don't play "games."

When I'm with someone - SHE'S IT!

If I was getting serious with someone I would probably just change my status on here to "looking for friends." I rather enjoy this online community, there's quite a lot of intellectual and level-headed people here I enjoy talking too.

You should probably just flirt with the person you are interested in.

Good answer!

they say counsul is to be seeked when you have no answe and where better to find it but among friends. and i would give my full attention to whom ever i'm involed with it is only fair. they say what goes around comes around, and let me tell you i want good things coming back to me.just be honest.

Action speak volumes...
If you are truly committed your actions and words should mirror one another.

this may sound cold, but, why would I want to be here if I found the man for me? I would just want to be with him and ya'll can keep hunting. Sad to say, thats not the case and I am still here, alone and looking.

I think the flirting is innocent honestly. If i were with someone than everyone would know. I wouldnt leave jsh because i met someone but i would be commited to him.

If a person thinks so little of me to continue to flirt...Then obviously that person doesn't have much respect or consideration for me or my feelings...SOOOOOOOO UMMMMMMMM I guess that says it all!!!!!!!!!

I think if you find "the" one...then the flirting with others would and should be a thing of the past. I have people I consider friends here on JSH and I would continue to talk to them.

IVE NEVER FLIRTED YET... NOT THAT I CAN RECALL, SO MY ANSWER WHOULD HAVE TO BE... IF YOU FLIRT WITH ME THEN MY OMLT RESPOONSE WOOD BE TO FLIRT BACK... SO I SAY BRING IT ON THEN IN CAN SANSWER YOURR QUESTION

For me...once I consider myself seriously talking to someone, I basically stop talking to other men, except in a friendly nature. I don't generally flirt anyway, and not that I would consider it cheating. I just like to concentrate on one person at a time. When it is done...that's when I move on.

I'm not a flirter either..I actually suck at it...So if I'm in a relationship...I expect the same consideration...Friendly is one thing...Crossing the line is another!!!!!!!!

The dating sites are not for hooking up only, most do use it for the forums, making friends and learning what people think on anything in regards to relationship issues they are interested in. I have friends on another site using it for the blogs. They go there and share their life stories and problems, make friends blah.

Flirting on the forums is innocent because there is no physical or if anyone takes it further and follow it through to other means then that’s their problem and only they suffer the consequences. I don’t mind winking at someone I liked, it’s a compliment, me telling them they are a cool or what they wrote makes me smile. That don’t mean lets hook up. It’s a mature thing to differentiate the difference.

Too many people take things seriously or assume there’s more to it. People that think like this have trust issues. I know there are some that do take things further from what most express openly on the forums. Do the maths …

Thanks for your input and the time everyone. Also, to whoever adds their thoughts in the future. I believe the one you choose is it. Therefore the search ends and your new life begins. But this isn't about me, it is for you to hold each other to your word. I know a few of you who got played by people on here and I am going to say that it upsets me very much. Even though I continue to be friend both sides, I am not happy with such a display.

Good question random stranger!!

I hope Random was just showing concern to everyone whom he notices have been into flirting on here. Yes, many have just talked for a couple of days and then later on post on a thread saying they found the One, it is awesome to hear such stories, everyone joins in sending their best wishes for the new couple. But then sooner or later we also read some posts about them breaking up (not to mention specific couple(s)) and it really makes everyone here feel sorry about them.

In my own POV, I think it would be better to know more about the person you have met on here whom you were attracted to. There are many ways to test whether that person is really into you and not into playing games. If you have been dating online, you know what to do, and the most important thing is RESPECT. When you show respect the first time you get to talk most probably you will also get back respect, and as time goes by you will learn to care and finally to love that someone and will plan to meet them in person.

I have met my man here 3 months ago but he never came across these threads and we know what we want and how we feel for each other and that we are both looking forward to that day that we will be looking deeply into eachother's eyes.

but what would I do with eric???

For me flirting ends when I start dating someone,its just disrespectful to myself and the person I am dating to continue flirting.Not that I flirt all that great, I'm a freakin goober.