I have not talked to him in a couple of weeks. that is why i left. didn't want to hurt him anymore than i have. i feel bad enough as it is. just wish he could understand. it is me. he has done nothing wrong.

You could just send him an email letting him know that you are okay and just need some time to sort things out. Let him know he did nothing wrong and you just need time to yourself. That would probably make both of you feel better.

Sorry I read it wrong earlier...here I try again.

"When not to say I love you"

It is when you both stop sharing that love feeling for each other. Love is to be felt and when you stop feeling it... its over no matter what!

i have emailed him. but not in 2 weeks. said it all. i just kinda miss our friendship. if i try and email or talk to him he thinks i want to come back. i am not ready for that. just want to be alone for now. he says NOBODY in there right mind want to be alone. i have never been so sound minded as i am at this moment.

2 months!!!
you didn't even have time to get your ducks in a row!

Alot of people are so worried about being alone that they will except just about any kind of relationship...
Guys will look at it as well I don't have to deal with it most of the time, Because he works & has what ever hobbies...
So as long as you can get along to sleep & hopefully cook!!
pick up the house once in awhile then your a keeper!
NO! I'm not bashing men!!!
I love men!
& I love their simple ways.

Women are still more complex & need to understand themselves inside & out....

& once your away from him for a bit you might realize he was smothering you is why you miss him so & why he only has a one tract mind that if your nice to him you must want to be back in his bed..

This is a very intersting topic to me,the respones are intersting,espically the one by catchme_

I say its over. Leave the poor guy alone. Quit messin with his mind.

Get yourself straight first before you make life altering decisions. Good luck.

i agree w/longhairbiker..i also think it's easy to confuse feeling sorry for someone as love...and yes you really need to be at peace and love yourself before you can love someone else...good luck...b

^^^ I'm with sin on this one. If you feel it go ahead and state it.

Of course there are exceptions to this rule. Best practice would be that if that monkey (saying I Love You) means putting a gorilla on someone elses then don't do it. ie stating it to a married man/woman.

Let them go...
If you are not with someone- then you should'nt
keep them hanging on.
You said you were'nt happy.
Sound's like you both need to move on.

ya quit trying to over analyze and overthink this thing.....youre not happy.......move on. But are you not happy because of you or because of him??? That is the million dollar question!!

Ok as well like Sin ^^^ lol...sorry I posted before seeing ALL the posts.

If you feel you have hurt this person then a carefully derived e-mail (edited by friends) explaining your feelings and actions would be Loving without having to state the actual words. I honestly don't think you know at this point if it Love or just guilt making you confuse this issue about saying , " I Love You'.

Stating such a thing without explaination of degree would most certainly be cruel and unfair to this gent. However that carefully derived letter stating I Love you as a friend or I Love you because you find good in me or where ever this feeling of closeness is being motivated from would be factual and fair.

I'd caution you though to make sure you sincerely know what your feeling before putting it into words be it e-mail or verbally. 2 months out of a marriage makes me think your not thinking at all and I say that with all kindness...your dealing with some pretty amazing hard issues of a past relationship to be bringing more confusion into a yet resolved life.

Gypsy raises a good point. Sometimes it is easy to blame un-happiness on the other person even though we are not happy with ourselves. Another person can only make one happy for a short time and then all the problems with ourselves will surface again. But, it sure can be confusing for the person caught in the middle.

you guys have been great. i think he knows how I feel. so i will leave it alone for now.

My ex and I are very good friends. I still do love her, although not quite sure on if it could ever work out. She is coming over today and so I need to clean up in a bit. I tell her I love her. I know she feels the same. We could have been perfect for each other, just bad timing. I do not have my life in order and I dated her right out of high school. I wanted her to grow up and to get my life in order for perhaps another chance. But if she moves on or if I do, then that is fine too. All things happen as they need to anyways, and in the end it all works out one way or another.

Well I do have to say it has been confusing for both of us. and you are right catchme

I do know you'll get through this girl....just slow down a bit. Maybe take on no more wreckage until you've dealt with the pre exsisting accident that has already jsut occurred.

I agree, timing was just not right. I am taking my time. Thanks to all of you, you word and advice are a welcome.

I agree with most here,It is probably best for both of you just to move on and be happy.