I am just wondering if the head games ever stop or if it is something that I have to put up with as long as I am in the dating scene? It honestly feels like I am back in high school....any ideas on how to deal with them

The only sure way I have found to win the game is not to play the game.

take a couple of classes at the nearest college

I agree with Hillfolk! There are so many players out here be careful!

Just don't deal with people who continue to be that way. Once you know they are drama soaked meat heads, tell them to get lost and move to someone else. That is probably the only way to do it without completely giving up on dating.

Learn from your mistakes and keep on living.

I'm sorry to say, I think there will always be players. What hurts is when we are the most vunerable, that it generally HITS us the hardest. Generally, I keep my guard up, feel protected that way.....

There always has been and always will be head-games in the dating scene. Just try to pick your dates wisely.... and keep ya fingers crossed.

I am with Hillfolk,ignore and send them packing.Do not play the game,it is a waste of time

And just like with anything... if it sounds WAY too good to be true... it probably is.

you,ll learn that the real onesalways stick around and are there and will not lie or hide whom they really are.i,m real and will not play the head games .i,m not out to hurt anyone nor do i want to get hurt so be smart and keep it real...

well.. as a fellow drama seeking attractor... (meaning we attract the seekers.. not we are the seekers) i have this to say..
there are some good guys out there.. they are hiding, and not easy to find.. but im sure they are out there... granted.. i havent found one yet.. but to have hope is to have life..
when you find out that they are drama seekers... or drama attractants.. cut the string.. get rid of them.. if you let them hang around.. they just get worse.. even as "just friends"... love and luck to you dear...

just remember.. the good ones are out there... keep your eyes open for them.

i actually have a story to tell and may ask for some advise. my ex and i still love each other never done anything wrong by each other just decided that it wasnt working but we still do things together and we still love each other. i want to be with him and give it a sec go but he dont. im pregnant but not to him, i started dating him when i was pregnant to someone else his parents dont no im pregnant at all. i cant work, i have no social life, have no money and my love life really sucks. how can i move on when we both love each other and still see each other. its hard cauz i dont have a social life or anything to distract me and the pregnantcy is driving me crazy cauz im so close to due date that i cant do anything and all i can think about is the guy i love when i should be thinking of my unborn son and what is ahead of me. i need something or some one to distract me till christmas so i can move on. what do i do???

Just don't play games. Treat people how you would like to be treated. With that said, sometimes we think people are playing games when they are not. I think the inherent differences between men and women can cause signals to get mixed up at times.

KRIS
just remember...
ex's are usualy ex's for a reason..

as for the other stuff... thats what we have the computer for.. lol
bes of luck
IZ

yes but computers dont always distract you from what happening. is there some wy to get over whats is happening with out the pain?

i wish i could say that there was...
but i was in the exeact situation you are in a year ago... and i can tell you.. it sux!!! but you will be ok... i promice... if you need a friend.. look me up...

karebear...one thing you have to remember is do not fall easy...it is easy to get attached to someone...really easy....you have to keep your guard up...if the person is pure about their interests in you, he will continue....even if it is friends only...if it is something more.....then it will flow...but you have to watch for signs...they are always there...you just have to see them..

Games are played by men and by women. Some of the games are disrespectful and hurtful while others aren't so much "games" but just part of the evolution of dating. I know that there have been times when a woman didn't want to date or continue in a relationship with me when I instantly cried foul. "GAMES, freaking GAMES..." I would complain. But as I've gotten a bit older I've come to see that many times that was nothing more than a defense mechanism designed to find something wrong with someone who did not like me. Usually however, that was not the case.

Today I'm a bit more realistic. If something works--great. But if it doesn't, if someone does not write back or does not want to get to know me better, I just wish them well and move on. I'm not always perfect at keeping things in perspective, but the less I worry about those who don't want to know me, the more I'm open to those who do.

-Drew

head games are something you will have to put up with whether you are dating or not. every day life, work, etc.