Are you investing in the process of being on a dating site?

How do you do it? What works ? What fails?

Iam sooo undateble, I just gave up...LOL..
just enjoying the forums,

Nascar you are not
You are a lovely guy with a beautiful heart.
Once the ladies know that you will have a special lady.
Keep believing in yourself.


For me
I'm on here for the forums.

Apparently I attract women from all over the world....especially the ones with no profile and pictures that look like they all model. I am so lucky.

Agreed NASCAR!

Just enjoying the forums and expressing my 1\2 cent here and there!

Wow, and here I thought I was alone.

For me it's on and off.
My 'problem' is that I don't care for chatting much anymore, which means finding a date online is a bit difficult.
I really can't bring myself to spend hours and hours with blokes that may be nice to date, only to find that most chats don't lead anywhere. So I'm wasting my time. I have better things to do with my life than spend hours on pointless chats.
Sometimes I like it, but usually not long enough for it to lead to something.

I think my problem is that I am rarely bored. Even though alone, I'm always busy doing something.

And you know what I really really hate ... whenever I decide to chat with a guy, I have to wait and wait and wait till he's finished typing... then I finally get his message and it's only 1 sentence?
The time the average man needs to type one sentence, I can type this entire message. It irritates me tremendously, I don't like waiting and waiting and waiting...
So no, I don't invest enough in it for it to lead anywhere ...

Nope!!

Seems if I do send a message (which is never) anymore, I never get a response.

If they message me (which is rare) they stop responding and I am left wondering why?

Yap, I was beating my head against that wall for over 15 years. After that I started messing with my profile, just for entertainment. The most amusing parts is, is that I got four times more responses with my messed up profiles in five years then I got in the fifteen prior.

well, i guess thats where i made my mistake...i always thought that was the way
women really wanted it to be.....


pardon my taking liberties with your post (((Crystal))) ...i know you to
be very understanding of us weirdos on mingle...

hiya Argo! You made me smile, so you're forgiven, lol
Nice to see you back again. If I'm not mistaken you'd been gone for quite some time.

Over the years I have read profiles of those I like and think to myself, often, what truly nice people why are they talking me out of picking them? Wondered often if I did not do that myself.

I have also thought wow I like that person, and think most people do have similar friends/family, and wouldn't it be nice if they had a person in their life that would fit in mine? Or if I so like them, as I have many of you on Mingle, I could recommend someone likewise.

I have always thought love, like falling out of love; the dreaded D-I-v-o-r-c-e is sometimes catching. So is it possible that falling out of hope of finding a mutual love interest might also be so if you really want to find someone you need a few cheer leaders?

It might be a little High school but would it be so terrible if you actually ask a friend to introduce you to someone or say something in your behalf? It doesn't matter how you meet as much as you get past the fear and meet. Ask anyone who has been married a long time, especially if it didn't come easily; they were scared.

So maybe investing a little courage in our search for love is what it is going to take. What do you think?

Hmm. Sounds like one of those "challenge" things. Investing? As in committing some how?

Maybe I'd just phrase this differently. Do I accept the limitations and additional requirements involved with making online stuff possible?

Yes. I accept more than that: I accept my own shortcomings and challenges, and I accept that my own desires makes it even tougher. And that more risk is involved, or at least more caution.

What works? Nothing, yet. What fails? Everything, so far.

The funny folks to me, are the ones who pat themselves on the back, declaring how they "found the love of their lives. Five times now, no less."

Find five loves of their life on Mingle? Yikes that is scary Well maybe if they were 87. lol So far the ones I have seen dated but only got serious with one of the Mingleland. Stands to reason a few players.

Honestly?

Not Much;}



I'm not looking for-nor do I want to
get "seriously-romantically-intimately" involved with anyone.
Personal relationships have always involved an imposition
& expectation to fulfill the emotional & physical needs of another person
which were often in conflict with those needs of my own.
Currently I've got too much on my own plate &
lack the interest, desire, & energy to get involved
in someone else's drama.