Love me for who I am not for wat u want me to be

Uh, who are you?

Then don't hide any part of who you are?

If people aren't privy to who you are, as an entire person (looks, personality, smell, opinions, beliefs, emotional reactions to any situation), then they are going to come up with an idea of who they think you are based on what information they have access to.

And a lot of times that's just going to come across as wanting you to be someone else, when really it's just expectations based on who they think you are and wanting you to be consistent with that.

Maybe completely off topic but I can't tell you the number of profiles that have something like the following in them:
"I'm focused on getting in shape," or, "I'm focused on school," or, "I'm focused on my kid," or, "I'm focused on improving my career," or "I'm focused on getting healthy."
Or even things like "I don't know exactly what I want, I just want to date and see where it goes."

IOW "I am in a transitory stage and I'm going to be someone else at some point."

It's especially difficult to "love someone for who they are" when they are specifically focused on trying to become someone other than who they are at the moment, or they are focused on something that keeps them from having to act like their "real" selves.

Those who says they love you for what THEY want you to be Do NOT love you. They love their fantasy and that will be impossible to be. Throw in the towel and move on.

Makes me think of one the Carpenters' song

If the person u like or love believes
that being who u are right now is not enough.
Chances are, no matter what u will do,
u will never be enough for that person:)

Be proud of who u are.
Be proud of what u are.
Dont be what that person, want u to be,
just because u want that person to love u.

Do not lose yourself for the sake of love.
If its the real thing, it normally
brings out the best in u, it will complement u.
It will complete u.

I know it sounds idealistic.
But if u will take time to think about it,
it is the most basic.