how can we really tell that he/she is the one?

does it requires the so called "soulmate feeling"?

or is it developed thru time?


Hmmmmn :)

Hi. Welcome to Mingle2.

I think it's developed through time.

You Only Know When You Find One

If you have an idea who you are looking for, then when he/she shows up, you recognize them; while if you do not know who you are looking for; then you hit it every time with thoughts of doubt.

The problem however is that knowing who a person is looking for, is not only physical, and not even primarily physical; but rather it has a lot to do with our own personality on the levels of the spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical.

Neither similarities nor differences can determine the match, but rather how those similarities and/or differences can be worked together between the specific couple. This is called Relationship, based on understanding, armed with mutual care.

I suggest that the physical would not be considered until the spiritual, emotional, and mental sides are decided as a good match, because when the physical enters the scene, it clouds the view.

God who actually created us had to know this very well, that he blessed the physical only within the committed relationship of marriage, and only between one man and one woman. This was not so that he deprives us from having fun, but rather that when fun time arrives we would be able to enjoy it to the utmost; without doubt clouds such as insecurity, comparing, selfishness, self-centeredness, or performance.

Enough safe Time ought to be given to a relation that feels right, and no time to be given to the one that has no feelings. The search stage should be built on many questions and logic, before the emotions be given a way

thanks camelthe5th for that very clear and well explained answer...


i've been to relationships but i always fail...i think it's all my short comings ...hehe


anyway...i'm trying to control my ego these days..you know how stubborn a capricorn is..haha

ohhh thanks vicky..

i think it sounds like destiny...or soulmate

yeah winx..

sometimes i also believe in that..

maturity is needed anyway

Sometimes it just happens...like boom.....
Other times....it takes time.....
For us it was developing slowly, then one day a revelation happened.....
From that moment on we knew we had something special.....

very nice mickey...


it's like destiny...a matter of chance and now the choice of making action...developing the love to make it grow better..

congrats to u and to ur other half

you will know, Gabby. trust me.. you will.