had this guy who has been on my yahoo and IMs me frequesntly.
when i relocate to Austin he wanted to go have dinner.
he has never said anything crazy, however he has 2 daughters ages 8 and 9. today he made a statement that he wanted advice because thier bodies would start to develop and they would start having "periods". i said you have a couple of years, they are just girls- enjoy them as that. he kept going on and on...so i just blocked him. i thought it was kind of creepy...was that wrong?

If you were creeped out, it was so not wrong.

I'm sure the guy has female friends/relatives that can talk him through this.

No, Joyce , that wasn't wrong. That was smart of you.

You were obviously uncomfortable with this guy's line of conversation. Never put yourself in a position like that. You did the right thing.

When I read that you said he kept going "on and on", I got the impression that he was really getting off on talking about that. You were right to block him. Maybe he'll get the message.

Don't feel bad because you don't want to put up with weirdos.

Does he have custody of them?? I hope he was looking for advice and not a damn child molester getting upset because they are growing up and getting out of his age range and worrying that they could become pregnant when the periods start.

Yeah, pretty creepy. I think it was right of you to block him.

yes- he has custody
i just felt really uncomfortable-

thank uou knoxman

i think its pretty flaky you would be made so uncomfortable by this that you would block him...Im a single dad and thank god mine are boys, I dont know the first thing about girls, never have and probably never will. If you are that flaky he is better off without you anyway.

block him and click ignore and tag as spam. You can also make yourself invisible to him when you're online if he's in your contact list. If he's not, then I call it spam. I have a similar problem with yahoo giving out my IM, but they say it's not them...but these messages keep coming unsolicited from Yahoo personals all over the world. Damn ruskies!! Anybody seen Lex? Seems he's touring Moscow with that infernal green tape dispenser. Sorry, Nurjoyce! Not trying to hijack your thread... just those damn ruskies on my mind!!

i'm not flaky--i work labor and delivery for 24 years
no problemstalking about it, however this was no ordinary conversation. would be like me asking you about boys and developing sexually.
and if i am flaky about a guy talking about his daughters developing and being sexual and using LOL
then i guess i will have to live with that.

no u did the right thing i have a little girl myself and if i had any? i would not ask anyone online i would call family it should be kept privet

ew, yeah. you did the right thing. If he really wants to learn about his girls he should go to a bookstore or a library.He obviously needs to do some research, even if he did have a close female friend in whom he could confide. (which apparently he doesn't)

It just seems like a pretty minor thing to me, I can understand a guy being freaked out about a situation like that if the girl's mother is not around to educate them about what's gonna happen to their bodies' as they mature. If this is the worst thing they guy has done it seems really unfair to me that you would block him and call him creepy, and of course then people jump on the bandwagon suspecting him of being a child molester and all that. Being a single dad is effing hard, my heart goes out to the guy

He has custody?

well maybe he's a strange one or maybe not.
Girls are developing at a much earlier age then some of us did, some as early as 7. So his questions may very well be legitimate.

Question is, does he have any other ADULT females in his life, such as a sister or mother or friend he could discuss this with? If not...maybe TAG, you are it!!!! Young girls and their developmental changes are unchartered territory for many first time "single parent" fathers. Just a thought!

I would have been creeped out too. That's really weird. What a freak.

if you are sincere about it yes--i would not mind
but the emphasis was not on his fears and how he could deal with it and still help his daughters, it was on sexuality and developing.

ya sounds like it nurjoyce, you would think that would be mother daughter stuff, i would run from that topic .!!! lol

roflmao... hmmm let me see, ladies get all raunchy insulting making fun of men and crtisicing them for not going to the store to buy pads or plugs.. oh wait.. tampons.. and then... when a man comes along, with two daughters.. and is sincerely concerned about them... then women get creeped out? and run?

yeah ok... lets not forget the mayflower landed 460 years ago... lets try to remember that its 2007 and that we had best be able to catch up and deal with things in the 21st century as common hygeine, and what he should know as an ignorrant dad thinking he can talk to a woman "friend" to advise him... because it's already hard enough for him to have to deal with it and you can bet you a$$ he can't talk to his buddies when he goes to play ball about it now eh?

uh huh..... this society is full of uptight frigid indivuduals who can't see past their own baggage ....

yeah totally good you blocked him! hope he doesn't try to buy his girls all diapers...;

lmao

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