I signed up on there a LOOOOOONG time ago, I think it was right after I turned 18... that site sucked then too.... they kept giving me these matches that were half way across the country. I gave up on meeting anyone online until I got on myspace, where it feels more personal. Here and myspace are the only ones I 'browse' for hotties on... cus its FREE..lol. I'm not going to pay for looking at pictures of ppl who live 1000's of miles away...

I can tell you all about eHarmony!

eHarmony sucks. Once you sign up, you are forever in their system,and matched up with people regardless of whether or not you are an active member. It helps make them look much bigger than they really are. And just try finding a customer service number on the website! I had to go to a complaint site (not hosted by eHarmony) to even get a number so I could complain.The matches that want to communicate with me are unsuitable (too old, too far away, different backgrounds, etc).When I called to try and get my money back because they were not providing the service they promised, I was told I signed a contract and it was unbreakable. I am NOT happy with them. I've gotten maybe 2 matches in the past week. I would definitely NOT recommend them to anyone. I"ve gotten far more matches and activity in the few days I've been on here, and it's free.

Terv, I never actually signed up there (just took the 29-point matching thing), but several former members have told me that their credit cards continued to be charged months after they had resigned from the site. This probably has something to do with that contract you mentioned. Just seems really unethical.

They match based on the 29 dimmensions of compatibility, which is based of the relationship questionaire that you took in the beginning. Also based on the match settings. if you set it up to 30 miles away and then on your match flexibility have it set to not important then they will go outside the box a bit to get your matches. It is possible to get a refund but only in your 7 day risk free trial period and also if you call on the same day of an auto renewal.

Also on the renewal month after month there is a statement when you purchase the sub that states the auto renewal feature is there and you can cancel within the account or call in to cancel. it is in the terms and conditions that you agree upon.

Yea, most of the pay sites will automatically recharge your account to assure 'uninterrupted service'. You can,however, go in and cancel. You can still finish your subscription, but they will then not recharge when it's up. They are all pretty bad that way, and if you are new, you don't know that stuff.

I used to work for eHarmony so I know how it works!

I was a little concerned when one of the matching questions was "Are you a godless heathen?"

oh and they can catch liars because there are questions that are the same, but worded differently and the user answers them different is how they can catch you.

Yea, guess that should have been a tip off!

And to answer another question, they are real people in the commercials!

well of course you're going to say there are real people in the commercials, and that very well may be true for some of them. But, the agency I am with do national commercials for huge companies like that. including dating commercials. So I highly doubt that everyone is genuine.

i don't think anyone has had any matches on eHarmony.i've tried 100 different times and have given different answers each titme and i've never gotten a match.this place is the best!

Same here no matches, so it must've been the religous reason, non believer...spiritual

As soon as I joined, they (e-harmony) were unable to match me at this time. Absolutley agreed, a joke indeed

And I don't have any issues if they want to do a "specialty" dating site -- there are plenty of them out there, and I think it's a good idea for those people who have more specific parameters -- I've seen a Catholic dating site advertised right here on JSH, I've seen black dating sites, Asian dating sites, senior dating sites, single parent dating sites, whatever.

It's just that I think it's a little deceptive to present their site as a "general" one, when they have an underlying agenda and only wish to sign up those who share their belief system. At the very least, it's a waste of time. At worst, it's an attempt to inflate their membership numbers in order to jack up advertising or membership rates.

sorry to contradict... i actually met someone on e-harmony... he is a wonderful guy. we were a couple for 7 months. but he lives in HI and i am in SD... we have such seperate lives and neither is able to relocate. But if we were closer, things would definitely have been better...

i do agree however that having to pay is ridiculous... i wouldnt pay... but i had friends who got me 3months of e harmony last christmas...

Hmmm I have wondered about E-Harmoney Looked at their site and had the distinct feeling someone was just working on a graduate study research project or justifying a test they came up with themself. I did not research it, it's founder, or it's consumer history extensively but I have wondered if they were paying for the commercial to brag that they reject people. Call me a cynic but when there is that much smoke I kind of wonder. They don't get good reviews from any one I have talked to and I have been doing computer dateing for years. I have found that you get what you project in your profile and well written profiles with good pictures get tons more responses.
I did met great people through Earthlink in Atlanta. Attending singles dances, parties with a purpose, and other get togethers made tons of friends and a couple of long term romanitc interests. One who still occasionally says Please; come home, and lets get married."
I have had very little luck with Match.com here in California. Many are trying to hussle selling something. Boy are they dissappointed when I don't want to invest since they are sure I am a wealthy widow. Nooooooot! A few were looking for rommates or to move in because the rents have skyrocketed even though there are record morgage defaults. Some were looking for babysitters for their midlife crisis "baby's. Teens cool but don't want to be step mother of the bride at 70+. Couple are just pushy bullies that want to insult you if you don't do it their way since they are used to treating women like employees they can boss around. I did see a few desireable ones have jumped ship and moved over to Plenty of Fish. One creep has crossed over to JSH. Don't ask who. You are all adults and can figure it out for yourself. I do think with some there may be and age thing where many single men my age have no intention of serious relationships and think they can get away with Fw/B until suddenly they are retired and out to pasture and nobody wants to be their nurse or purse. lol Seems 60 does often account for an wakening of attitudes about committment but not always.(hint)
I do think if you have a specific lifestyle issue it pays to post on several boards and up your chances of finding a match. Some site specific groups are so sterotyped and ridgid you can feel kind of cookie cuttered into their mold than having your own choice. Be interesting to see how the industry changes and gets regulated in the next five years. People getting ripped off is starting to get legislative attention and some of the baloney should stop as consumer fraud folks get involved. Just keep in mind whatever you plug into an open site about you and or your personality you may have to live with for a VERY very long time to come. You don't know how much of it will become open information for insurance companyies, employeers, attorneys or potential partners to find out about you. I am and old fart who isn't very serious about career or social approval but some of you have a great big future ahead of you.

Despite my previous assertion that I would not resubscribe to eHarmony, I DO think that it is the best online dating service I've encountered online so far. I think that the quality of the service has dropped since I last used it, but it has many features that I wish could be implemented at other sites.

The thing that I like most is the focus on useful communication. I've found that it's easy to say too much or too little when you have nothing but a profile and an "email this user" button with which to work. eHarmony's step-by-step mechanism of increasing the intensity of communication makes it a very comfortable process. Unfortunately, when it isn't all part of the system, trying to get somebody to answer five multiple choice questions to break the ice doesn't feel very personal. On the other hand trying to catch somebody's interest with a short essay is hit or miss too.