This is a topic that anyone can chip in with I suppose. Someone was saying something to me about how middle aged men usually need a wad of cash if they want to date young hotties though and she maybe had a point there and they probably don't want to date a bum or a cheapskate.

Obviously, it would be inappropriate for me to ask you how much you would usually spend if you wanted to have a really good night out with somebody and totally out of order for me to expect you to itemise your expenditure by asking how much you spend on alcohol, cocaine, jewelery, taxi fares and the like.

So then, just sum yourself up in a word or two maybe. Bum; cheapskate; big spender; or what?

Sometimes this is the reality of it all. There are lots of young men now also looking for sugar mommas. Do you think its worth spending the bucks or not? Some do.

I watched some videos on YouTube recently about older women traveling to Turkey and Africa to meet and maybe find a young man to marry.

I don't think ALL younger women and men are just out for the moolah. Everyone has preferences as we talked about earlier.

Summed up...I never spend more than I can afford. I believe in equality. My bf and I share the cost even if he insists. I like to be fair

I think it has probably always been true that if you go after someone for whom wealth is important, then you will have to spend a lot to impress them, whereas if you go after someone who does not, then you wont.

Not much more to it than that.

It isn't age related.

The reason why there is a tradition of older males "needing" to spend a bunch to attract young hotties, is that there are a fair number of males who want that kind of woman, and a fair number of women who want that kind of arrangement, to fulfill their requirements.

The thing is, the one causes the other. it isn't inherent to female or male DNA, so far as is yet known.

You get to spend money base on the level of the chick.. There are cheap ones and there are some which are expensive.. I will rather take it this way... I should get paid by a sugar momma and I should find a super hot chick I will spend money on also.. Without thinking of the charges.. I'm not into any of those things ..and I don't think I will find pleasure doing any of them...

Cocaine?
Wow ... so we're talking junkie and/or prossie dating now? Lol

Jewelry and dating? I didn't think there would be jewelry involved until you had established a relationship.

If you start snorting cocaine and handing out jewelry to dates, it will indeed require a wad of money...

Well, yes. It's interesting because I did have a conversation with a young hotty about it and she said that it hadn't worked out with her ex because he just thought that she just wanted him for his money.

It's not all black and white though. Just because a girl is used to guys trying to buy her drinks and stuff all the time that doesn't mean that that's all that she wants from a guy, or even needs from a guy.

If you are looking for a hot young woman to date, just because you want too, then it shouldn't matter what the cost. You are both getting what you want, its give and take.
Finding a hottie to marry and fall in love with is trickier.

that's true..
But if it goes beyond that.. And it happens they both love each other..will the relationship last longer?

It's tricky but I'm not sure that it's trickier. I can't really get older women to date me anyway. My dating pool is sadly limited to young lassies. Well, those are the only ones that I ask out now anyway. I can't take this humiliation with women my age refusing to date me anymore because I blow all my cash on drugs and fast women.

There is another somewhat more subtle aspect to date spending.

It's part of a general human phenomenon that shows up in other aspects of relationships too.

You could call it transubstantiation, just for fun. People do it all the time. They associate one thing with another. They ask for stuff, not because they really want it, but because they've concluded at some point that whatever it is, means something else important to them.

Spending money on these people isn't about the money. It's about the meaning of spending money on them. They think that spending a lot of money equates to a serious commitment, most commonly. It's like investing.

Naturally, some of these folks don't think things through all that thoroughly, and fail to notice how much or little the amount involved means to the particular person, so it's not even as meaningful as they think.

The same kind of thing can be done with other things, like time. Some people test your commitment by demanding that you spend time on them, which you wanted to spend on something else. They might ask you to meet them somewhere, and then do nothing, or they might want you to sit and stare at them instead of watching your favorite show. Not because they want to DO anything with the time involved, they just want to see if YOU will pend it on THEM.

It's the same thing though.

40$ two drinks each.. appetizer $15 entre $35 each... that's roughly $150 with tip... dinner twice a month..
. Coffee and or drinks throughout the week..
40$ too 50$...so ... so far you're sitting around $350... now throw a movie into the mix.. that's another 50 bucks...
And I like to take my lady friends out for a day of shopping... now that can run me anywhere between..$100..to $250.... so on average iam spending. . Roughly..$500.00..per month..not including..flowers. . Are the cost of transportation... not including the cost of looking good myself..lol..and smelling good.. .now if you are like me and have more than just one lady friend..going..at any particular time..it can get a bit pricey..

Good gravy man, what planet do you live on? $500. a month?

And I had to pay for my own dinner on my last date I was asked on.

Tell me about it.. I have co workers that spend a horrific amount of money on their women friends.. take them on trips.... one of my buddies dropped $400 on a pair of sunglasses for his sweetheart... it is easy to keep a woman happy.. but it ain't cheap to wine and dine them... and keep them looking good and feeling good...
Because that's part of it... buying your lady friend a tight form-fitting sexy outfit.. that really highlights her attributes. .. and you ladies know what I'm talking about.. when you have on that so so sexy great-fitting.. makes you feel like a runway model.. outfit.. priceless..

Selfish.

I have never experienced that, nor do I know any woman that a man did any of those things for her. My fiance would loose it when I put on his hockey sweater or his overcoat. I would actually go over his house when we dated in my strappy stilettos, low cut top, skirt and he would prefer I wear his hockey sweater.

The look in his eyes when he saw me, in a t-shirt and jeans was what made me feel like the sexiest women on the planet.

Wow that's big spender
You spend that much on a date?
That's my morgage for the month.
I think I need to up my game. lol I go for the cheaper option taking him into consideration.
Hahaha ha My sister did say don't settle for the chop when you can have the prime porterhouse steak.
hahahahaha

Wow. . Really and man has never taken you out and bought you a nice sexy outfit...wow.. I enjoy watching my lady friends try on clothing... I even pick out outfits for them to try on... and when I get it right it is right..mmhhmm... seeing the expression on the woman's face.. when she is wearing.A Oh so so perfect outfit... makes me feel very good..yup

no. Not big spender.. but if you want to take a woman out for a nice meal.. nice bottle or glass of wine..
It cost money..lol... later on pizza and burgers Come into
the picture... put even then you still have to go out for the occasional nice evening.. life is food.... it is nice to go into a very upscale restaurant have people waiting on you... having the people in the restaurant notice you.. and more to the point noticing the woman I am with... I like my dates to feel like they are.. the most glamorous most beautiful woman in the place..

Never ever.