Just wondering.. How has it worked out for you?
Do you prefer to meet someone first for a coffee/meet'n greet?
Or prefer to meet someone and get it on ?

Well, the latter is a sure thing and if they're advertising for sex and keep saying that they need to meet for coffee somewhere first that means that they're jerking you about and you're unlikely to even get the coffee. It's just one of many delaying tactics that internet prick teases use.

It depends. I met one in a public place once because I wasn't that bothered because I was interested in somebody else at the time but I decided that it would have been rude not to meet someone that had actually asked me out just to be faithful to somebody on the internet that was messing me about and wouldn't make a date.

It depends a lot on how I'm feeling at the time. One time I turned down a woman that was a bit drunk because I was looking for more than a one night stand and she didn't seem like a good bet for girlfriend material, as she was only just seperated from her husband and not over him at all. Also, I had a date with someone else the next night and wanted to see how it went with that one first.

I may not be that bothered and feel like going to the pub or whatever anyway. I mean, I'm not desperate. If I want uncomplicated sex I can get it and somebody new is an unknown quantity that might not be that good if I just want a shag.

Sax Message

(No digs for guys, I know they
have different set of standards
and I always respect those)

I just want to give my take:

Sex is big deal for me
Ms. Kitty, like love,family
& money, I want realistic
compatibility- but

while it is very tempting
when you are lonely & everyone is
pushing you to do it, because
it is the healthier thing to do,
than being on a relationship,
( i am speaking of peer pressure
inside the office)

what always stops me is the
idea that I am a woman & my
set of principles since I dont
have a God.

what always stops me is the
idea that I will be intimate
with a stranger, and he can
just kill me anytime, or abuse me
anytime because he is stronger
than me.

It is always my need to be safe
that stops me from giving in
to the situation.

I tend to always double check.
I prefer to get to know the person
well enough to assure me,
I am safe with him.

So, no strangers, even after
meet & greet and coffee.
It is very important for me, to get
to know the person first.

I don't know never really done it....but we could have sex & i could let you know after coz it will be pretty much the same

Stranger sex ? Stranger than What !!!!!!!

Stranger sex...isnt that where you sit on your hand till it falls asleep and then molest yourself? The "Stranger"....

I figure someone who wants stranger sex is a mooch or too selfish to be any good as a sex partner. Sex is not that complicated to at least make passible so if they have to do it with strangers because they are that lousy a partner why would I want to waste my time.

Even if it is mediocre sex; I still can do that for myself.

And the likely hood that a person who does something as risky as stranger sex being into doing other risky things ,criminal, seems pretty predictable. I don't need criminals in my life.

Since it is also probable that you are not that persons only "sex stranger" disease would be enough for me to pass. Especially on diseases that mess up such a "sensitive" part of the body.

Last but not least I think stranger sex really is a red flag for someone desperate or crazy; usually a lot of the later and while I have empathy for the mentally ill I sure don't need to invite them into my private life.

Maybe stranger sex is just a dare but do you really want to be with someone so stupid to be manipulated by a dare?

Or someone who is having sex with you because they can't get sex from their partner or want to use you as part of a fantasy or revenge sex game then they are not having sex with you so much as at your expense.

If you are not the type to do "it" anywhere isn't inviting a stranger in your world for sex kind of risking a lot? I don't bring strangers into my car and I sure would not want them in my home. If you are in contact with them by any means other than direct contact, phone, changes are it is not a throw away phone and it can be tracked back to a whole lot of information about you by the number on and internet search engine. So they could give you a closed number and be a stranger to you but you are suddenly not a stranger to them or who ever they are working with,

Women could want an intimate encounter with a stranger for all sorts of reasons. Yes, they're likely to be insane, struggling with issues, or damaged goods in some way.

Let's see though... What do you call a crazy girl that gets her thrills by doing risky things like sleeping with strangers? I believe the old fashioned term is "nymphomaniac". So, if you come to think about it, you could be getting porn star quality sex there.

This is why a guy doesn't necessarily have to be desperate to do it. And frankly, I'm not really sure anymore why a guy would go on a dating site unless he was just looking for nymphos.

How has sex worked out for most people on internet dating?
Have the majority of people you've had sex with turned into magical fairy romances?

I'll bet the majority on here have had sex, and then everything falls apart far more often than it ever worked out.

Stranger sex, dating sex, relationship sex, one night stand sex, friend with benefit sex, whatever sex.

If you're here, it's worked out for you less than it's worked, hasn't it.


I would imagine getting a hotel room would be the smartest ploy.
I wouldn't meet for coffee/meet n great, unless I was the type that was looking for more than stranger sex, like a FWB.

I feel this, is blatant discrimination against those of us who don't drink coffee.

when you meet for a Coke date has a whole different ring to it

I am sorry I choose none of these options. IF what I am seeing here means this.
A. Do a meet and greet set up date and then hop into bed?

Nope not me..


B. Do a meet and greet then hop into bed?
Nope not me...


I would prefer to get to know someone... Have Complete STD' testing done..
I know this is going to sound really crass.. But there is nothing worth dying for...I don't care how good or skilled it is not worth it to me.

Oh I would just love it if I could meet and greet them or at least make it to coffee.. before they start pulling my clothes off... you women are ruthless..

What makes you think that I would want that in the first place?

I rather stay to my self than having a sex with a unknown person.

If i get someone that will take my virginity as a young man thats great.

HEY ADD ME SEXY IM IN LOVE WITH YOU PLSS ADD ME

I prefer they agree to a battery of testing & sign a waiver

When did this become a thing??? And how come nobody told me!?!?!