The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Did Low self-control effect your love relation . what about yr partner in this mater

Did low self control become the reason why I chose my last partner? Yes and no. I could have thought things through a bit more. It was a very long term relationship that ended on fairly good terms.

Some times it is ok to take a risk sometimes it isn't as long as I am learning from my mistakes and take the time to self reflect.

it was more a matter of self esteem

That's true self esteem is important when choosing a person to spend time with be it dating, working on a relationship and so on. Or being comfortable with staying single.

What do you mean by self control? Is it getting into a situation without worrying too much about the consequences? Are you talking about not really feeling in control of yourself and your destiny? Are you talking about trying to justify something that you wanted to do at the time as a "mistake"? Are you saying that you have anger management problems and beat up a woman once?

Chucking the question back to you, nosey bastard. What's your story and why are you asking this question?

Yes i had no self control over my past feelings for someone i was involved with, i knew she wasn't the type i would get serious with but some circumstances actually got me closer to her & i knew what a special person she was, even tho she was a lil fukd up

This is my feeling on this also.

Hard to say, since it depends on what you mean.

I've concluded that everyone has "self control." Everyone is responsible for their actions and inactions.

I tried a long time ago to make a relationship work with someone who ( I learned too late) wanted to be the slut of the century. They claimed that everything happened as it did for reasons beyond their control, and that it was my responsibility to make things work.

I tried with someone else who wanted everything to be under their personal direction at all times, and that was almost as destructive of my soul.

In each case, and in others I observed, I came to realize that absolutely EVERYONE was in complete control of themselves at all times. What varied, was who they chose to fob off responsibility on.

It's refusing to take responsibility for yourself that causes the trouble, not "self control."

Self control in past relationships?
Let me put it this way...in a question.
Have you ever tried self control during a bout of explosive diarrhea?
There ya go.

I think that taking responsibility for ones own self control kind of goes hand in hand. You can't control what another person is going to do but self esteem as well as learning from the past can help decide which person is best suited for your needs or is staying single better. Yes in my case I have kids so I need to think of their needs as well what is best for them.

Well said