Do yall have experience with people who attempt to get to know you out of state?How does it usually play out?

Out of country.
Playing out great.
Don't think that's typical though.

I use to be open to the idea of an LDR.
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Not so much open to the idea anymore.

Lots of frustrations. Would require two strong people.

Out of state?
Out of country?
Out of universe?

i came to Mingles to find that
i seldom speak to those so called "nearby"

How does it play out?
i guess, only time will reveal

i am surprised to hear this comment coming out of you... but i do get your point

I feel hopeless with LDR.

I don't do them. Seems to work for some people though, so I guess it just depends.

I'm in a long distance relationship. Its my third. First was a game to him. He played with people. Second we didn't have the resources to make it happen. I said never again and then here I am. Never say never lol. Its hard being away from your love. Even worse after meeting up and then having to leave. Its expensive and eventually one of you has to leave behind your family and move. Takes a lot of courage and trust. A lot of time on phone and skype. For love though its worth it!

RCB happy for you and for all the other Minglers here who have found someone from here. And yes..... skype has helped so much in LDRs that it enables us to be able to find common ground even though we may be on opposite sides of the globe.

If you are therealcarebare I once talked with on here... Congratulations. you look happy.

I've never tried it. I might if I. Find someone else. I'm not going to bank on it, though. As there's a danger in building my hopes up.

Yes it is for us... I also think for the ones that it does work for
I think those that do it go into it with their eyes wide open. They have to be real no matter what. They also have to be strong people to understand that voice is what we have for now.

I always tell people to keep it real wait til you see them in person before you commit. I knew before I ever met him that he was the one but I wanted to be sure.

It takes work, time, trust, communication is the key...honesty and reality goes hand in hand.

You have to learn how to talk, fight love everything from a distance
It isn't for the faint hearted.

There also has to be some common goals and understanding.

Eventually someone is going to have to move. Who is that going to be.?
Know up front.
Pancho and I both know it will be me.

One of the worst things someone can do is build a fantasy around a person or put that person on a pedestal. what happens when the person is real and can't fit on the pedestal they were put on..Disaster.

Firstly I'd like to say Congrats RCB (real care bear)

I personally really have liked LDRs all my life

I find it interesting and unique in a way

I always say a human is his soul, not his body

It is difficult for a relationship to be away from ur loved ones, but for those that can open their minds to a broader aspect, LDR works for them

It is fulfilling to me to love and be loved by a man without his body having to be anywhere near me because love comes from the soul, not the body

But ofcourse, when the love deepens, then we can go to the next level of being together physically too

Good luck to any of u if u choose to take the LDR route. Do it Well, it can be ever so wonderful

for u guys

Love,
Life

Sry for my poor English in the above text. I'm having another one of my massive headaches, can't think properly

long time no see

Nothing wrong w/distance. Try to know someone is normal. All depend in honesty and true sincere words. The best is to try friendship at first; the rest will come after if all is ok. Time will discover all at the end.

There are wonderful persons in the world; stay positive and sunny in soul.

We can make great friends all over the world;then;we can find real love too.

Be nice and sincere; you will get the same.

G//

I experienced this many years ago. It turned out badly, but taught me several valuable lessons. The most important lesson I learned is to live your life grounded in reality and not to bother with the powerful fantasy that online relationships can become.