Too many frauds on the internet.. Do you think one can be able to find a soulmate on a dating site??

Nope.

it is no harder than in the real world

In all reality, No!!!!!!

Yes, I think so. I'm reasonably sure most wouldn't be here if they didn't think so.

I had hope that maybe it might be possible but not anymore :(

I am sorry you haven't been here that long to even know if you like someone yet let alone love.

Love online... Well I think you can find the spark of interest and then it has to go offline and in the real world to make sure it isn't a fantasy.


I met my guy from this site and we did just that took it offline to make sure it was real.

We are both still out here for forums and friends.

So yes I guess you can

It's possible to find people to connect with and build a friendship with and maybe you can meet them in real life and see if you have chemistry. A lot of the time, it feels really great online and in person it's like meh, what the hell have I done?? The last guy i went out with, we had amazing chemistry online, we met in person and it was like oh god, why???? I thought over time I'd grow to be attracted to him and it never happened. He kissed me and it was so awful I wanted to vomit right there. I think it's easy to think you're "in love" or whatever online because you have so many pretty words being exchanged and you can let your imagination wander and make up all these fairy tales about how it's gong to be in person and then you get in person and they look different or they smell different or the vibe is just off. I think I just got some really bad vibes from this dude because every time we went out I got physically illl (not a good sign) and he ended up being a psychotic cyber stalker. So yeah, tread cautiously online, don't get all caught up in pretty words and promises and all that rot that romantic people will push down your throat. Keep your mind and your eyes wide open.....

That is very true.. I always imagined online relationships as very romantic.. You get to talk to someone all day long and never get tired and it feels great because you've never met but yet you bring out all these emotions in each other.. I guess I've just been watching too many movies.. For now, I'll just lower my expectations

I believe so Nicole, my bestfriend met her husband online way back 2004:) I was the maid of honor in their wedding:) it was a whirlwind romance online:)

I talked to a guy for over a year before we met, it was awesome, we talked every day, all day, it was all rainbows and butterflies and he was amazing and he thought I was amazing and we made all these plans and then we finally met and I was like omg, what have I done? I kept dating him for a while, for several reasons. I really did like him, but I wasn't really attracted to him. And it's hard to date someone you're not attracted to. In the end I broke up with him for other reasons. But yeah, I'm not sure what the answer is for how to tell if you're going to be as attracted in person as you are online. I think it's because I love mental connections, I love a guy that I can talk to and who gets me, but if I don't want to sleep with you, we're just friends. It's such a dilemma.....I hope you find what you want though, I know a few people who have had good luck dating online,, hopefully you'll be one of them.

No offense when I say this.. I see some of the problems you might be having.

One.. No one has all day to talk to you unless they aren't working then why would you want them. Also even though you are in a relationship they still need time for themselves as you do.

Putting feelings into someone you haven't met is a dangerous game to play. I have seen to many times people think it is great wonderful meet and find out that what they thought wasn't really there..


Movies... Well they make millions of dollars to put the best foot forward on relationships... They don't' talk about the reality of smelly socks, bad habits, of each person nothing only the perfect things. Which are there and yet there is the other things to..

Instead of lowering your expectations how about fine tuning them to the real world. To a person that has all the qualities of being real.

For example I have a wonderful man, and at times I know I want to kill him as much as he wants to kill me. Would I want to trade him in no way I accept him for all his facets that makes him...him... the good and the bad.

IF he was perfect then I would have to be and well that isn't going to happen.

Good advice.

I agree with everything except the part about them not working because they have time to talk to you all day, that's not necessarily true. I used to talk to a few guys all the time, they used their phones. This one guy was a security guard, so he talked to me while he made his rounds. So it's possible to work and text, it's not advisable, but it can be done. Every thing else you've said here, I agree with wholeheartedly.

yes why not...

Of course you can, as soon as you make the online
an offline reality situation.
I wouldn't count on anything until then.

No!

Except for the "real" part...


ETA: Is it possible to meet someone via the internet? Of course. Is it possible for this meeting via the internet to turn into real love? Absolutely. However, it is not possible for these things to happen until you turn the online fantasy into tangible reality.

Sure it is possible to find a soul mate online. There are good and bad people every where. Just verify before you trust

I've received some really great advice.. Thanks. Online dating can be possible but after you talk online switch off and try it in reality.. Its not a 100% guarantee that you'll hit it off but its worth a try