Gentlemen don't kiss and tell. They don't boast about it to their friends and they are "discrete".

If he's a gentleman he acts so towards ladies and is charming. He's a "ladies man". Boyfriend or husband material perhaps and if he's a perfect gentleman he would treat any woman like a lady.

This is how you can keep as many women as you want on the go at a time and they could all be floozies but if they weren't and one of them was you you wouldn't know about it unless he failed to be a discreet gentleman, or you hacked his email or something.

Now, let's not assume that you're married or living together. Maybe you only just met him. He hasn't made a commitment to you. He seems like a perfect gentleman. Not just a guy desperate for sex. Well, he wouldn't be if he's seeing other women.

What would you think if you knew all this about him? Would it change your opinion of him from gentleman to player or womaniser, or just see him as a discreet gentleman that doesn't kiss and tell and enjoys an active sex life and is perfectly entitled to as long as he's a batchelor.

Would you really expect a gentleman to be a monk, just because he's taken a vow of silence?

I don't get the question, are you asking would I want the guy I'm dating to have screwed around as much as he wanted, just never talk about it? Or would I want the guy I'm dating to have never screwed around at all? Assuming it's the former, I think about talking about the people you've banged is tacky and classless. Unless you're telling your doctor so he can treat you for a nasty disease......

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A gentleman wouldn't screw around

A gentleman wouldn't screw around, would a man like it if his partner did the same?
Kills that argument.

that's "love the one your with" philosophy.

my opinon

there's a world of difference between a gentleman

and a playa

Blondey gets it.

There's a chapter in Trainspotting where one of the characters talks about class and sophistication and how it's only guys that need to boast about it that do and that if you just say nothing people think that you're the man and that you don't have any problems getting women.

Think of this as being like the opposite of a "nice guy" rant. James Bond wouldn't whine about his ex on a date, or go on about how it's unfair that women prefer bad boys to nice guys. He will treat you like a lady and be sexy and charming straight away. He's already made up his mind whether he wants to sleep with you or not and he doesn't need to know if you're going to think that he's a nice guy first.

The moralising comments without any argument to back them up were expected of course. Merely the statement that a gentleman should be celibate or monogamous until he finds a woman that he wants to settle down with.