I love him but I am afraid he would just keep on breaking my heart from not keeping his promises. He has lied to me several times. He does not apologize. I am confused. Sometimes I think my future with him would be a disaster. He does not want to break up. He does not do anything to keep me either.

I think you've answered your own question.

He's in it for his benefit and doesn't contribute anything. They say you teach people how to treat you and it looks like he has taken a liking to your way of not kicking him out.. which you should do in my opinion.
A relationship is a two way street and as far as he's concerned it's all going his way.

Get rid of him.

Laurie

Sorry to say..but that guy is not worth of your time and energy....Move on girl! Why you will stay with that type of man? if he is not worth at all.

so why are you forcing yourself to be with him?

because i am hoping we can still work this out. i dont know

sad truth

I will try to follow your advice. thank you.

you want to work things out without his cooperation? sounds unrealistic, dont you think?
i think you are investing yourself in a lot of false hope. is that what you want?

he's not aware of his wrong doings and asks me why I do this. I am going to break up with him .

have you met this guy in person? is this online thing? if its only online dating. its just drama.

i met him online and he came to the philippines to meet me and my family.

did you take pictures talked about visa? if he is younger if he liked you he be considering a visa if he is older he may be thinking living there and not quite ready to move. that's just how I think. don't really know his thoughts

Ok...well..as long as both of you can be honest with each other and respect each other regardless what happens. If you think he is unaware, then point it out to him. As long as you have realistic expectations regarding him and yourself.

he's older. he wants to take me to his country.

i point it out but he does not apologize. he blames me

I met a pinay we get along great. from the start I was very clear I'm not getting visa for her to come here that I was moving there in 5 years. I put up with so much drama and pressure to move sooner. its end of 5 years now we are building nice little nippa house she was out boat shopping today. its all coming together now. many times she made it seem like I was breaking my word and not being there. I have kept my word. if you are same you may not be listening to his words or his words are not what you want to hear. next time ask him hey I'm here for you what exactly do you want? if he doesn't know what he wants then u have a grown up boy not a man.

have you started visa??? if he came met your family took pics and filed visa. you my dear are a drama queen :)

i know he would take me but i am afraid what my life with him would be if he's like this.

Ok...lemme get this straight...

The guy is older (assuming much older) but from your description, is of questionable maturity ( cannot accept mistakes, does not apologize when wrong, lies to get what he wants, etc.)

You met him online and he has probably managed to get you to profess some kind of love for him, and he promises to bring you to live with him in his country.

He pays you and your family a visit, checks to see if you are legitimate also and as you presented yourself to him online.

But you are having doubts as to your future happiness with him because of his track record of lying and blaming you for not giving in to what he wants.

Did i get that right?

i am not making this up. i dont have to prove myself to you