As I sit at a the bar - perhaps on a Saturday afternoon, in a Sports Bar hopefully in front of a big screen tv, having a beer, some lunch and watching a favourite team play,...
As I watch the game and view my surroundings.If I catch the eye of someone, am I to smile back? I have and I have not.. (probably seen as a *****)
Yet, I don't necessarily want them rushing over to me to hit on me..
and as due to my situation, I am not looking to hookup as yet.. (just viewing the pool,)..
Going forward, I am going to smile back at everyone's eye I catch and see what happens.
Will men take my smile as being/having manners or as a come hither ?

Sorry what did you say? I was too busy looking at your boobs lol and checking out your *** lol

Sniff sniff you don't happen to have a doggie treat on you ..?. do you!! .PpPpP please

Naughty Milo

stop that!

yes I do.

I think it depends on the smile.
I smile at everyone, a casual friendly smile
If I am interested there is a whole different smile that will show I am interested kind of has something to do with the rest of the body language going on.

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stop that!
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ok.. but yes I understand your dilemma it goes both ways.. for myself if I see a attractive woman and she smiles at me!.. I just usually think.. she's being nice.. now if you come over and sit beside me and engage me In conversation.. well !!.I'm so naive I will still think you're just being friendly and nice... now if you were to come over and sit beside me.. and ask if you can buy me a drink.. and say I think you're really handsome.. Your just the kind of guy I'm looking for.. do you want to go back to my place? later on and look at my ..Etchings...Well then it's on baby lol

That was said to loud


Somethings are best kept secret

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ok.. but yes I understand your dilemma it goes both ways.. for myself if I see a attractive woman and she smiles at me!.. I just usually think.. she's being nice.. now if you come over and sit beside me and engage me In conversation.. well !!.I'm so naive I will still think you're just being friendly and nice... now if you were to come over and sit beside me.. and ask if you can buy me a drink.. and say I think you're really handsome.. Your just the kind of guy I'm looking for.. do you want to go back to my place? later on and look at my ..Etchings...Well then it's on baby lol


I think it would be after you picked yourself up off the floor in shock...

I think it would be after you picked yourself up off the floor in shock...
..yes.. you are right !.it does not happen often.... okay it actually does happen often.. .. I'm just really naive to notice.... my friends are always giving me a hard time about that... dude she's totally hitting on you... no she's not she's just being really nice and friendly...Dude ..
What

What kind of answer are you looking for?

This is no different than:
"I viewed someone's profile, or sent them an email that said 'hi,' what does that mean?! How are they going to take it?!"


Depends on the guy.

Some you won't even look at or notice, just existing, your presence, alone, in a public place is enough of a "come hither."

Some guys you will sit there and stare at, lick your lips, play with your nipples, and they'll just look at you with a dumb expression on their face wondering why you're looking at them, and they'll wonder why you're letting your beer get warm or whether or not you're supporting the same team they are.

Other than that

There's a billion different types of smiles.
Sarcastic, cold, evil, including the eyes, mirthful, joyful, pleasurable, etc, ad infinitum.

There's a reason indirect communication is so important and accounts for the majority of all communication.

People say the eyes are the windows to the soul because they're lazy, unobservant, or stupid.

The entire face, the body, and it's trillions of microexpressions are the windows to the soul.

But people focus on "sight" as the most important sense.
So, that becomes the eyes are the windows to the soul.
Even though looking at them your subconscious can't help taking in ALL the information the area surrounding the eyes tells them.
The flare of nostrils, the dilation of the pupils, the arch of the eyebrows, position of the lids, crinkle of the brow, perspiration, hair covering or surrounding the face, position of the corner of the lips, tilt of the head.
Just crap tons of information your atavistic sub self processes at a miraculous rate to generate emotional feedback that guides or compels your behavior within the larger picture.


Are you to smile back?
Theoretically, you just feel what the correct response is, have it occur naturally, and then go about your day, all within hundredths of a second, if less.
You can't control how other people will perceive it.
You can't control all the subtle subtext you are throwing out there, either.

If you don't smile because you choose not to, your body language or something else indirect and out of your conscious control will throw out the same information, although it can easily lead to conflicting information for the guy.

Ultimately, it really doesn't matter.

You will always communicate how you're feeling.
You can't help it.

So many variables. Let's face it,with some people,just a look is all it takes for them to think they have a chance. Then there's that extra moment of eye contact when you are interested. Saliva running down the chin as you stare can be off putting to some lol.
But on the whole,i think most decent people will accept a friendly smile for what it is

I smile at everyone because someone once told me "Smile, people will wonder what your up to."

If a pretty girl smiles at me I just write it off as she's just trying to be nice because she regrets the fact that we made eye contact. Unlike the good doctor I've never had an attractive girl do more than give me an awkward smile and than look away.

I am friendly and talk to everyone...unfortunately some will mistake that for flirting.

you are in a bar enjoying yourself just wear a smile why not always smile.

yes, it's all about sex...

If I smile at a woman, then more than likely I am being kind. If she smiles back then of course I feel good....but I don't think she is about to drop her panties and beg me to penetrate her.

Obviously depends on the guy. I've seen the gamut.

Everything from the shy guy, who is sure that you are yet ANOTHER girl already laughing at him for being so silly as to think she likes him, to the guy who would see even a shot fired at his face from a 44 magnum as a come-on.

I still remember my sister being taught by one of her friends, that the correct way to do the across-the-room-come-hither smile, was to take the time to look away and then look back, frown, look down, and then tilt her head up just slightly, and THEN smile.

I haven't tried to meet someone in a bar since 1976. Gave up on it for a number of reasons, all of which added up to "never has positive results for yours truly."

Dang I thought the come hither look was to have the smile
then bring the smile to the eyes, smile with the lips
gently bite down on the bottom lip.. And softly lick your bottom lip

I have so much to learn