No, I feel ya King. My best friend's mom was actually a hose-wife, and
before I met her I thawt the term was very disrespctful. I even said so
one time. But she helped me see that the duties she handled as a
stay-at-home mom were just as important as paying the bills-- if not
more so. And her father recognized his wife as the backbone of the
family too. I never really thawt about it before b/c i was raised by my
dad to be very indpendent and hard-working, but if my man wants me to
rear the family while he makes the dough, I guess I cud conform.
Marriage is all about compromise afterall

Wow...this is shocking...! Women are debating being a housewife
I thought that was every women dream...!

i don't think people would be as messed up if there were one parent at
home. it doesn't matter whether it is the father or the mother but when
both have to work because of the cost of living or their is only one
parent the child resorts to learning things in the streets because there
isn't anyone around who cares for them like that and alot of times they
get misled because they don't know any better and it becomes a way of
life. of course both parents working or being a single parent wouldn't
be so hard if there weren't so many pieces of crap out there trying to
corrupt them in the first place. that is the only part of it takes a
village to raise a child that can still work in todays society. if you
are of sound mind and good intentions and you see a kid in need it is a
good thing to point them in the right direction so that they have a
chance. does not include being subjected to your point of view or
opinion but just simple direction of what is wrong and right.

yeah... i used to wonder what it was like to have a normal 2-parent
family home. my parents werent together long but when they were they jus
fought and screamed most of the time. I didnt even know my mother for a
few years cuz she left us in my dad tuk custody. so part of me is jus
instilled work-work-work. even on my off days I go on for overtime. i
said i'd go crazy if I had to stay in one place all day! my husband mite
hav to understand that part of me... he cant stay home-- thats fine wit
me-- long as my meal's ready when i get home! lol

that is a good statement too monique. i know alot of people that think
if you become a housewife you lose you independence or become
subservient but it doesn't have to. like you said about your friends
family, the man admitted that the mother was the backbone of the family.
i know of families where they have traditional roles but one partner
doesn't have anymore power than the other one, it's a relationship.

Preach it! lol

loli'm the same way about work.

I would love to be a housewife. As long as I can have my activities and
the man can pay for them.... give me a mop and apron....

BUT!!! most households need two incomes now a days.. so.. off to work I
go... *S* (when I can find a job that is)

I would give up my career for family in a second. IF, I had all the
luxuries of a single income that I am already used to. If not, then I
would say I'd have to continue working. Ont, I think thats alot of the
reason we women who would chose family over career,continue to work, is
that it takes 2 incomes now to provide a comfortable life for our
families. So, with that said, you work, I'll quit the force and stay
home and cook, bake, clean and be waiting for you everyday to come home
and make love to you. Okie dokie. UNTIL THEN, guess I'll just have to
keep working. lol

enuf said, chuckee. well done!

Thank you Monique. Perty much squashed this one. Moving on..... lol.

i dont look like her either lmfao but I cook like auntb and I love
taking care of my man n the house n yard so all his job is to hold a job
n work plus treat me like a lady n be honest n loving thats one hell of
deal.
the ladies are still in the world of takng care of her man...

Being a housewife is a hard job. If you had to pay someone to come in
and do all the things a housewife does you'd be broke.
It is sad that circumstances in society have made it hard on a one
income family. "Back in the day" my mom stayed home and dad worked.
everything was closed on Sunday and families acutally had time
together.I loved being a housewife with the exception my husband
couldn't come home to me and went "hunting" for outside activities.
I love being there with dinner ready and the house clean and spending
the day thinking of how Im gonna take care of my man.
Sad to say tho most men take it for granted and its a thankless job.
There are a few exceptions to the rule who will come home and help with
kids and clean up behind themselves.

I've been a stay-at-home wife & mom for almost 8 yrs now and it's
definitely not easy. Before marriage I was always on the go...full of
adventure. Once I said 'I do', the brakes were slammed on and everything
came to a screeching halt. Unfortunately I lost my identity and am now
struggling to find it again. I love my kids. But one of the things
that's negatively affected my marriage is staying home 24/7 and having
no adult interaction...it's not been a balanced situation. Done right
and with the right husband/spouse it can work. Living off of one income
can be a challenge...you sacrifice and have a very tight budget!

that is a good point restD. mom needs her time too and a man should
recognize that and offer to hold things down at home for awhile so that
she can get out a little. at the same time a babysitter is nice
sometimes as well so that they can go out together and have some quality
time. i don't think it is always intentional but sometimes things get
lost in all the hustle and bussle

Still...I remand shocked at all of the woman rejecting being a
housewife...! You don,t need a million dollar income to be a housewife.
Of course some of you think that you need your own money to stuff...
well thats what a budget is for.
If you man can pay all the bills and still have money for your
womenly expensives then what,s the issue...?

HEY!!!!
Ontario, I told you, it works both ways
most of the females this days, are used to
having feedom, personal bank accounts, credit cards
that they can use at anytime , without asking
" what is my limit darling"
well welcome to the new world baby

Ain,t no new world...Baby... she can have all that without
working...freedom is not for married people.
Besides she still has to budget the money married, or not... I don,t
understand the grief with this issue...!

you just said that feedom is not
for married people
now, did you hear that mannnn?

Okay...I,m just saying that you are not addressing the issue of being a
married woman... that does not work outside the home.

That,s the issue...please, this is something that would not make you
happy...?