most of us on here would like to find true love..but what do you do in the mean time?

when you get the moody blues and are feeling kinda bummed out and fed up with it all?


do you have a sister you call up or a good group of friends you go out with?

do you have a favorite hobby you immerse yourself in?

go visit the kids and grandbabies?

try out some new recipes?

do you take up a new hobby or do something you have never tried before like rock climbing?

do you travel?
go to the mall and do some power shopping?

re-decorate or do a home project?

are you an avid reader or a movie enthusiast?

do you fix up old cars?

do you have one of those jobs where you work in a cubicle at a computer
and ya see the same three people everyday and you are getting to point
where ya don't even want to talk to them?


well? what do you do?

This is part of my problem at the moment. I have none of these things. I am in limbo I guess. All my (our) friends are married and still have families to be with, to support, to provide for...I have really nothing going on. I was married for ALL of my adult life, my family is not easy to be around and almost non existent, my children are grown, I have no real hobbies, my job is non-people-oriented. I pass my time working, window shopping and surfin the dating sites......boring, boring and boring. Did I say boring! LOL


sorry TMom....this thread struck a nerve with me at the moment.

ya but Mel I want honesty because sometimes it does suck azz ..


I tend to find myself stuck in a rut and I have to kind of shake myself out of it and figure out where the fun has gone in my life and how can I begin to bring some things back in to feel better





I go visit my kids and play with grand baby for it reminds me what is important..

I go for walks or go to gym

I listen to music that will cheer me up

I do yoga when feeling stressed

sometimes if I am feeling too cut off and isolated I go to the mall to just people watch

oh ya and yesterday I let my oldest son talk me into bringing a kitten home..


and I have been looking over some new recipes for the fall

I am not ready to be in love yet.
So I keep busy by my work in an art gallery and historic village.
I am an active member of an awesome poetry site.
Reading and writing poetry is one of my passions. I am trying to instigate the reading of more poetry in my community by certain means....
Family, pets and living in a beautiful seaside, mountanous town needs exploring often too ....

I head to the ocean at night with my dog and walk along the shore looking at the moon, stars, and waves and remind myself how lucky I am to be alive and healthy.

I try not to dwell on any of that. I keep busy and when I'm not I tinker with my motorcycle or fix things around the house.

I spend as much time as I can with my Grandkids.. and its still not enough time for me :)

So, I consider myself blessed and loved. That is enough for me.

i'm not really here to find love or any of that but if it happens it's good but thats not what i'm focused on.
i like the forums & interacting with all you interesting people & this being my first & last dating site.

as for the topic, i keep busy working, business, training at gym, writing lyrics, playing sport, socializing ect ect

Humm besides the site keeping me busy and getting to know new people..

I have my grand kids I go visit and spend time with..

Then have friends that we all go watch a band play. Which we know all the members of the band...

Or I piddle around my house which has plenty of projects that need to be done.. that just seems to not get done...

Of course I have a full time job that I actually enjoy....

And I have my dog sassy that keeps me company at home. She is always happy to see me...

If all else fails I take in a movie or go out to eat and have a few drinks.. There is always someone at the bar in a restaurant to talk to...

Honestly there is not many times I can say I'm bored... there is always something to do..

Or I call a friend.... to harass... humm think it is time for one of those calls... Rains is home bound seems she needs me to harass her for a bit...

I decided I was not going to sit a home and wait for prince charming to come knocking on my door. Really lets be honest It's not going to happen.

I have joined the gym and a running group.
I go out with friends to do a variety of stuff
I go for walks and my town and meet a lot of people
I even joined Mingle for friends.
You know the saying "if you want friends you have to be a friend."
I go to the library to read but end up talking to a lot of people about where they come from.

My town has a lot of free family stuff on down at the lake front so off I go with friends.

When I want lone time I shut the gates and potter in my gardens.

just moved to this town the end of June so I was doing a google search on restaurant reviews and discovered there is a farmer's market downtown on thursdays

Are you from Australia?

who me? nope born and raised in Michigan

Me? I'm trying to save the world. One thought at a time, one discovery at a time. If I'm lucky, I'll accidentally save myself along the way.

I took out the ones I don't do all of these things and more I have done. I may be in a relationship now, I have spent more time alone than I ever have in one so being in one presents it's own challenges..lol..

I think we all go through the down times when you are lonely kind of but yet not really nothing is going to soothe us... Etc....

I know when I have those times, I know that I am not fit for any company I have to get the pissy out of me first... I deep clean and at times my home is so bloody spotless. It scares even me...

I try really hard to expel the pent up frustrations physically,so that I can enjoy some of these things. I also have a bucket list of things I want to learn or experience I grab that when all else fails...


I love the Farmer's markets and open stall sales we have every Saturday here in the summer.

Trish...You are going through so many transitions right now that I am sure someone as resourceful as you are this will pass rather quickly for you..

I had to take the shopping off I am one of those women that doesn't like to spend hours shopping unless for quilting fabrics...

yes it has been a busy summer
graduating, moving, getting settled, getting resume in order, looking for work, getting registered for grad school, getting my son into his new high school, new doctor, new dentist, ...


I realize that once school starts up again and we are both in a routine the dust will settle and I will find my center once again

oh and that cleaning like a mad woman one? hahaa ooooh yes I do that one

I consider being single, at this point in time, to be a blessing.

Gives me time, to figure out, where I wanna go in life... and what kind of relationship(s) I might be willing to commit to.

I used to be moody with periods of depression . something happened to me bout a year ago. Im just happy don't need anyone to make me happy not going to make anyone happy. just be happy let people be happy with me. its made a Hugh difference in my life.

I happen to be in a relationship now, but when I wasn't, it depends on what catches my attention at the time.
I ay softball during certain seasons.
right now I took time off to give my knee a break.
I like to learn. so taking a class is always good

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