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Not even a little bit of doubt about my answer to this. I am older and more decisive about what I can and will tolerate and so if the person is not in those ranges I don't even bother. I don't see hurting the other person or wasting their time or mine. So age is not just a number...? |
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Edited by
Pansytilly
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Wed 08/12/15 06:37 PM
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Ive heard both sides...younger people tend to be headstrong, impatient, and full of pride (or chit, however you look at it..)..older people tend to be more set in their ways, resistant to change...(possibly full of chit, too?) 
So...assuming a relatively healthy ratio of age : maturity... Do you think you are more able to adjust to a partner now, or when you were younger? Are you more inclined to give into/indulge a partner who is older, younger, or same age? Or is age not a factor... On any side we are full of chit, lol. I think I was more willing to adjust to compromise before, and was a lot more patient, too. Now, I am much more in accordance with myself, know my needs and although I am still very able to adjust and compromise (although there are some basic issues I can�t make any compromises), I�ll do it only if I see that the other side is willing to do the same. I won�t be alone in it anymore. As for the partners, I prefare older than me. But if I would meet someone younger, with whome we can be in harmony, I am definitelly not against it. Maturity is not only in age (although most time it is), but in kind of life experiences and in the way we deal with them. I dont think we were more "willing" to change when we were younger...maybe we weren't as aware or assured of what we wanted, that made us look to the other party to identify ourselves with. It takes a few life experiences to be truly more accepting of things, people and situations without losing touch of who we are and who we want to be. Maturity and age are factors, but i think, a good partner regardless of those, can always bring out the best in another. |
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Ive heard both sides...younger people tend to be headstrong, impatient, and full of pride (or chit, however you look at it..)..older people tend to be more set in their ways, resistant to change...(possibly full of chit, too?)
So...assuming a relatively healthy ratio of age : maturity... Do you think you are more able to adjust to a partner now, or when you were younger? Are you more inclined to give into/indulge a partner who is older, younger, or same age? Or is age not a factor... Regarding adjusting to a partner, I don't believe your age plays a large part, it's more the type of person you are, your personality, and how well you relate to people in general as to how quickly and by how much you adjust. With respect to compromise or indulging a partner, age difference would not matter very much in my view. Your own past experiences may have an influence if you have been in a serious living together relationship/marriage before. I believe you are more likely to try harder to make the next serious relationship work, hence possibly give in more and indulge your partner. This is just my opinion. |
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Ive heard both sides...younger people tend to be headstrong, impatient, and full of pride (or chit, however you look at it..)..older people tend to be more set in their ways, resistant to change...(possibly full of chit, too?)
So...assuming a relatively healthy ratio of age : maturity... Do you think you are more able to adjust to a partner now, or when you were younger? Are you more inclined to give into/indulge a partner who is older, younger, or same age? Or is age not a factor... Regarding adjusting to a partner, I don't believe your age plays a large part, it's more the type of person you are, your personality, and how well you relate to people in general as to how quickly and by how much you adjust. With respect to compromise or indulging a partner, age difference would not matter very much in my view. Your own past experiences may have an influence if you have been in a serious living together relationship/marriage before. I believe you are more likely to try harder to make the next serious relationship work, hence possibly give in more and indulge your partner. This is just my opinion. As usual, I appreciate your input. Some people, after having fallen out of a past serious relationship, have decided not to be as flexible in a new one. I dont know if this is because of a large amount of pain they have been through, feeling as tho they've lost touch with themselves because of their partners, or because they feel it is not worth putting themselves on the line again for something they know cannot be replaced. |
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Edited by
Pansytilly
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Thu 08/13/15 03:42 AM
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I've heard both sides... younger people tend to be headstrong, impatient, and full of pride (or chit, however you look at it..).. older people tend to be more set in their ways, resistant to change...(possibly full of chit, too?)
When younger, most young people think the world is their oyster and anything and everything is possible or achievable, younger people adapt more readily to changes too and take it in their stride. When older, most older people realise the world is simply a lot smaller than when they were young, a lot of older people don't adapt to change or are set in their ways. So...assuming a relatively healthy ratio of age : maturity... Do you think you are more able to adjust to a partner now, or when you were younger? I feel it was easier to adjust to a partner when younger because everything was a lesson (a learning curve) where-as now when someone is giving me the run around or fobbing me off with excuses, I know I am getting BS excuse lol. Are you more inclined to give into/indulge a partner who is older, younger, or same age? Or is age not a factor... I feel I am more inclined to agree with some one who is closer to my own age than someone who is way way younger - By way way younger I mean my children's age. In my youth I was very money orientated, everything I did would depend on what was in it for me, not to say I was ruthless, because we had a close knit crew of friends and we all stood by each other and we supported each other in every way including financially. Now the opposite is true, money is not the key point, through life's experiences I have learned that there are many things which are free but very very valuable, and no amount of money can buy these free things. Finally, I still see myself as a role model for my children, no matter their age, and this affects hugely how I act in my life, I would always like to think my kids think of me as being a sooper dooper kind of pops, and therefore, I could never date anyone who is the same age or younger than my kids. This off course means that over time the age group of 'compatible' partners gets smaller and smaller lol Any/Every person is a beautiful individual, no matter their age. I feel its more about KNOWING what you want, and going for it? I can understand the point of not wanting to be with someone who are the same age as your kids. But i can also appreciate that there is a difference between seeing someone as just being like your kid, because of age, as opposed to seeing someone as something more, despite the age. Kids grow up, kids mature. It would be different if you are involved with someone who is the same age as your teenage kids, as opposed to adult kids. That being said, I think its an issue of similarities in goals and mindset that can make or break the compatibility factor. Not so much age. Edit: And of course that very lucky few that have fallen into a mold that fit both perfectly, despite of, or maybe because of the age gap. |
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Splendid! 
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Splendid!
Oh...very nice...
The definition of love...seem to change over time for many individuals...yours truly, included... 
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The definition of love...seem to change over time for many individuals...yours truly, included...
'Appreciation' stands taken/accepted with 'love' & 'respect'!
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I am more attracted to older men, physically and I connect with older men much better on a emotional level.
saying that, If I met someone my age and he was really nice and we connected then I would go for it, but my preference is older men. |
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I dont have any hold ups on age, I would happily be involved with someone the same age, however older women really tend to catch my eye, especially women in their upper 40's and 50's. I know its a big age gap but mature women are more my thing!
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Ive heard both sides...younger people tend to be headstrong, impatient, and full of pride (or chit, however you look at it..)..older people tend to be more set in their ways, resistant to change...(possibly full of chit, too?)
So...assuming a relatively healthy ratio of age : maturity... Do you think you are more able to adjust to a partner now, or when you were younger? Are you more inclined to give into/indulge a partner who is older, younger, or same age? Or is age not a factor... I've read some of the post here. I have to admit, it's true. What you go through in life dictates what you will put up with as you get older. For some, Yes. They are holding on to bitterness and hurt from past relationships. And some are like me. It's not that you're bitter or still hurt. It's as you get older your ability to put up with another person's shyt seems to go away. And the older you get the less you are willing to put up with. And some people wind up alone because of it. Two people in my family wound up alone. But they each were happy. One was my grandmother on my dads side. And the other was my granddad on my mother's side. Both died happy. Being alone didn't bother either at all. I find myself following in my granddad's footsteps. I've been alone the biggest part of my life. I was married at 32. My divorce was final when I was 39. I've been alone a loooong time. I didn't plan it that way. I didn't want it that way. It wasn't from lack of trying. I didn't want to repeat the same mistake again. Finding someone that you can love wholeheartedly isn't easy. It's downright hard. With a lot of people being the way they are now, Most don't seem to know what love really is. I've seen men and women this way. They don't seem to understand what sacrifice is. A lot of people now don't seem to know how to put someone else ahead of themselves. Now, with a lot of people, It's all about me and what I want. If I can't have it and be with you, throw you away. Get another one. It's not about love anymore. It's about sex and It's about "Me" and what "I" want.(Yes, to many men and women now base their relationships on sex. To me, that's crazy. But millions do it every day.) I was connected to one woman that was like this and more. I don't want to be connected to another one. Alone may not be fun. But it sure beats living that way. |
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