Sometimes your in a place where you don't want to be in a relationship' but still want ..maybe in some cases need someone to get frisky with. Woman are making the phase Friends with benefits sound so bad!
Im sure there is a better way to say it can you tell me ? And do you think that i should just become friends with someone and after we've got Frisky then when she ask or starts to think were in a relationship tell her that I'm not interested in taking things further than this ...as in being committed

I wouldn't skip over the honesty phase so casually.

Honesty always and keep it wrapped...

That's what masturbation and hookers are for.

Sex can really complicate your life.
It has risks.
STD's, babies, emotional attachment.
2 out of 3 of those things are what is SUPPOSED to happen.
Like turning the key on your ignition is SUPPOSED to start a car.
If you don't get a woman pregnant, or emotionally attached to her, that's like turning the key in your ignition and the car not starting.
That's USUALLY when you take it to the shop to figure out what's wrong.


That's because it is bad.
It's a bs relationship.
It was invented by people who simply didn't want to assume responsibility for themselves.


A more accurate way to say it is "I would like to have sex without feeling any guilt, with the added bonus that it's acceptable and something you want too, but I have absolutely no desire for any kind of responsibility or change in my life. I want to have my cake, eat it, and not have to exercise it off or have to buy any from the store."


Personally, I think you should learn some adult self control and avoid sex based relationships and use that energy towards more productive goals.

Personally, I think you should create absolute boundaries for your friends in regards to sex and never cross them otherwise you ultimately betray the friendship.

Your values are questionable at best. A friend with benefits should be avoided because thats a good way to spread stds. If its that bad pick up a hooker and rather keep it a secret if u do because if u dont soon u are going to be labled!

they say STI'S these days

Be up front about it. If you don't want a relationship & you just want sex. They need to know. They need to have a choice & make a decision. FEW women can actually have a "friends with benefits " relationship.

Just remember... " What is good for the goose is good for the gander "

You have plenty of good points
Its just that i work at lot, yes i still like to have fun but I'm not really trying to go on dates.
i was in a relationship for 7 years in which we only broke up only once early in but now I'm enjoying my freedom apart of me wants the feeling of being in love to have only 1 be a woman's only 1. don't wanna hurt nobody ...maybe I'm selfish ... no std's for me baby I'm i keep the cucumber wrapped up i can't be paying for prostitutes though i hate lying but sadly it gets you by

I hear you. You need time for yourself. It is NOT selfish. Most do after a long relationship. Lying is easy, telling the truth can be a b@tch. But, when you do tell the truth, it can prevent a lot of future drama.
I have heard these lines myself....
" But I thought you would change your mind " ... God, those people are annoying!
People jumping to conclusions & trying to force a relationship is sick.
There are a lot of people who think their genitals have magical powers .
Sadly, there are lots of sick out there.
Being honest with yourself & them is the best you can do.

In a friends with benefits situation, someone always catches feelings and someone will get hurt. You might want to satiate your needs but don't do it at the expense of someone else's feelings.

^^^ What have I been saying? Playing with fire. Exactly.

That is because it is bad. . . and no, you don't "need" to have sex with a woman. You simply want to have sex with a woman.

I have heard these lines myself....
" But I thought you would change your mind " ... God, those people are annoying!
People jumping to conclusions & trying to force a relationship is sick.
There are a lot of people who think their genitals have magical powers .
Sadly, there are lots of sick out there.
Being honest with yourself & them is the best you can do.

true words of wisdom and funny too you should really start yourself a hotline or even better a tv show jerry springer and maury are soon to expire theres a place for you in the spotlight

darling if all you are looking for is sex
than be man enough to tell a woman that from the get-go

she will decide whether or not she would like to proceed

Sounds like you just want to screw them... I would even question if you actually even want to be friends.

So maybe we just make up a new abbreviation

ONSTAM

One night stand twice a month

in college...i once heard a guy say to his friends,

"why pay for sex when you can get it for free?"

this was regarding his girlfriend...

she was devastated when they broke up after a couple of months later.

practically wanted to kill herself...he didn't even care.


....i agree with the Melmacian and Tmommy. you don't "need" to have sex, but if you just "want" someone to scratch an itch... don't be an arse about it...