I have met a man on here. I'm not even sure how far away he lives from me. Here's my problem.
We talked tonight on messenger. He wants me to go out on a date with him, I told him yes but only in a public place. The more we talked the more he wanted. He flat out asked me to be his girlfriend. I said let's at least wait till we meet and decide then. He asked for my phone number, I said I didn't do that till after I had met someone. He had already gave me his and really wanted me to call him.
He seems nice enough. But it also seems like he wants to rush everything. And when I ask him why the rush he seems put off, and even said if I wasn't interested he'd leave me alone.
OH, and he has no drivers license for a year. I asked why and he said he did something stupid. Got 3 tickets for no insurance.

Any advice, tell me what you think of the whole situation.
Please help.

PMS

Baby, you already know in your gut - go with your gut........

i would suggest running the milage to him

and it is obvious you will be doing the driving

and see if you are willing to go to that extent

then there is the insurance thing was it a money issue or

a responsibility issue and do you want to deal with it

a couple thoughts

only you can make the choice on what to do

good luck

Hmm, I definitely see some red flags. Be careful, if you do decide to go out with him...at least take a cellphone, make the date in a public place and keep it short n sweet. And good luck!

I agree with Differentkindofwench...
go with your gut.

Forget him. He's probably some kind of scam artist. Don't waste your time with him.

Thank you all for the advice.

I did forget to tell you the last thing that was said.
He said that if he knew I was going to be home today he'd get a way to my house.
I had already made it quite clear that I am going with my sister today and would not be home.
When I reminded him of that fact, and asked how he planned to get home, he turned off his messenger. I haven't heard from him since. He just sounds very childish, maybe even a little mental.

Thank you all again for the advice and ideas, I really apperiacate it.

PMS

Go slow, listen to that little voice inside, don't let ANYONE EVER lead you where you don't want to go. As a guy, I see some questions about life that need answered before jumping much farther. Someone else asked about the ins. thing; I would want more info on the Why? of that. Lack of ins. to me, shows lack of responsibility. Is this what you want to get involved with?

Thank you Sage,
He really seemed so nice at first. But the more I talked to him the less interested I became. My last LTR lasted 8 years. And it seemed all I did with him was take over where his mom had left off. I paid his bills out of my own pocket and everything else, including his child support.

I do not wish to repeat that.

PMS

Well, I don’t blame him, if you are not interested just tell him despite his personal probs. You put yourself up for the picking on a dating site, now you found yourself a guy that makes you question him. It’s all good at least you are thinking. If he appears to rush things, better to get on with it than to just talk talk and no action.. In real life, when someone asks you out, you decide on the spot, you either interested or you are not. It’s only a date and it doesn’t have to be anything fancy.

Too many people say they want something and they don’t act. I mean, they put themselves on the dating scene, looking to date and when asked out they say nah lets get to know each other better. Sometimes you can talk too much and it amount to nothing.

You picked up something undesirable with this guy or something you question, maybe from that you have the answer to your question.

PMS. Looks like too many red flags. I agree with Sage on the lack of responsibility issue. It could be that you'd be right into another situation like the LTR was.

PMS -- yea a lot of red flags; go with your gut hon.
Good Luck

pms, you know what your gut is saying. I'm not knocking anybody, but RUN like hell!!!

Hi coco

RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNN far far away!!! He's got a few screws loose, a few fries shirt of a happy meal....

I sometimes wonder...why do people want to rush things? Is there something they are trying to hide and don't want you to find out? Any time that someone becomes "pushy" with me...right there is a red flag. I don't like pushy people, if they can't go at a slow pace...they are not going to like me!!
I think down deep you know the answers...just don't over look what your gut feelings are telling you

pms I would be leary if I were you. I stear clear when they seem desperate, like giving phone numbers right off the bat. I truely believe in emailing first, then working up to chatting on messenger, then phone numbers exchanged...then meeting.

But in the case of JSH, if you've had some kind of connection with them through the forums that is a little different. IDK, it's just my opinion. Go with your gut feeling, please be safe.

hi nerves

I did meet a lady once. She called 3 times a day. Found out what kind of car I drove, then she found my house and dropped in!!!!


Sheesh..............................


Scared me right off. I told her to never come by again and lose my #!!!!