Ever since I broke up with my first gf after dating for two years. I have had other relationships after her and I haven't managed up to six months with anyone. Am beginning to think it's karma cos she was the only girl who loved me endlessly and would go any length to make me happy. I was a young and naive guy who just wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I hope ds is not a problem that I haven't found another woman like her?

I suggest you stop looking for a girl just like her.
Don't look for her replacement.
You're still young. When you meet the right one,
you will know it.

Thanks for the advice.

You're welcome.
Good luck.

tell her you're sorry for what you did. that way you'll get rid of the karma...

oh, and pancho's right. stop looking for a girl like her. if you want her back, get her back, otherwise look for someone else for who they are, not for being like her.

Two years is kind of important biologically.
It's about when you start serious bonding with someone, on average, where you transition from the "honeymoon" stage to the "crazy" stage.


That's pretty common.
People avoid pain and conflict.
They naturally train themselves to, without realizing it.
If there isn't a network of family and friends (actual community vs. bs internet community) supporting and pushing (cajoling, teasing, expecting) to go further most people will just continue to find reasons not to.

Similar to sticking to the kiddie pool at the hotel because they can't clearly see into the ocean and they stepped on a rock before so next time they might be eaten by a shark!


Not sure what you mean by karma.

You mean you had a traumatic emotional event that has helped your subconscious develop a pain threshold which you tend to follow and avoid repeating without realizing it?
And to get over it without conscious effort is going to require finding someone even "better" than your ex?
Otherwise after enough time, loneliness, and depression, desperation starts to take hold and you start settling for whomever gives even a taste of what you used to have with someone else?

Or do you mean "I did bad things in the past, so I'm being punished?"
It's not that.


That's not true.
That's just the chemical training talking.
No different than saying "I only felt life was worthwhile on crack! Colors were clearer, my mind was sharper, everything was more fun!"
Also similar to "I drive better when I'm drunk!"


After the onset of puberty there is no stage in your life where you aren't ready for a romantic relationship.

There is no stage in your life where you are absolutely consciously prepared for a relationship where it will just come easy forever and ever and you don't have fears and insecurities and don't make mistakes, where the entire thing is just clear and straightforward.


There is no other woman like her.
There are a ton of women better and worse and different than her though.
If you go out trying to recreate her you're going to be screwing yourself over.

Thank you so much everyone.

I agree ... sometimes in relationship or new we may compare ... but just go with no two people are exactly a like ... for some reason I don't even think twins are ... not sure ...

Stop sulking about the past.
The coulda beens, shoulda beens, and never weres.

Look to the future.