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Topic: When one door closes...
singingmyheartout's photo
Thu 10/11/07 02:44 PM
I'm a firm believer in the old saying "When one door closes another one opens"... and man... when we find that newly opened door, it can be exhilerating...
But the reality of it is that YOUR open door might be someone else's door closing.
frown frown frown

I know life isn't fair. I know we can't have it all.

What I do know is :you're damned if ya do and damned if ya don't. grumble grumble grumble

I consider myself to be intelligent enough to figure things out... and I'm pretty sure I've drawn an accurate conclusion.
:angry:
I didn't sleep at all last night. I tried, but couldn't.:cry:

Ever wonder at what expense your happiness comes from? And is it worth it when you realize the expense? huh

I'm embaressed, really. Because I am not the type of person to be the cause of other peoples' pain. NEVER would I want that- for anyone.:cry:

So... even though you don't know me, I am sorry it happened to you. In all honesty, I did not know. :cry:

This is how I feel: brokenheart brokenheart brokenheart
sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad

So if anyone has anything to say, I'd appreciate some feedback.

:cry: I hate it when I end up being an idiot. grumble

How am I supposed to fix all of this? And can I? Considering I kinda was blindsided to begin with.

Ella1's photo
Thu 10/11/07 02:51 PM
Singing - I feel for you. Sometimes people get hurt without any intention on your part. I said that last night to my friend, and I think she understood. I hope everyone involved can come out of this a better person. All it will take is honesty and some time! flowerforyou

MicheleNC's photo
Thu 10/11/07 02:52 PM
Ahhhh, Singing, I hate that you are hurting. I can't respond since I don't know what is going on.

Take a hot shower and try to get some rest.

Hugs, M

singingmyheartout's photo
Thu 10/11/07 02:53 PM
Unfortunately... it's never easy. And me, being me...
when these things arise, I am the one to usually bow out gracefully. :cry:

no photo
Thu 10/11/07 02:55 PM

Sorry to hear about this...:cry:

Be glad you know now and not later.

Things will be ok, singing! Just give it some time! flowerforyou


Sunshineblue's photo
Thu 10/11/07 03:02 PM
I'm sorry you're hurting...you aren't an idiot at all...it sounds like you're an honest person and believe people are being honest with you...that's not a fault at all..hopefully time will heal...

singingmyheartout's photo
Thu 10/11/07 03:02 PM
Well... time for me to go home from work.
I have no motivation to do anything right now...:cry:
I'll see you guys in about an hour or so.

Jess642's photo
Thu 10/11/07 04:07 PM
Singing, you are only responsible for you...

What you do not know, is not your responsibility, but feeling what you do, now other things have come to light, shows how much you care for others...

Compassion.

Take care of you, be gentle with yourself.

flowerforyou

Posey10's photo
Thu 10/11/07 04:12 PM
hi Singing,

Pain sucks - we all know that. If you act in ignorance, yet correct situations as soon as possible that is all you can really do. Forgive and be at peace with yourself - if others choose not to forgive they are only damaging their own inner peace.

I know words probably don't help much when the pain is so great, but just know you aren't alone and others have probably been where you are...and made it through.

Good luck.

Britty's photo
Thu 10/11/07 04:16 PM
I could not say it any better than Jess or Posey10.

You sound like a very caring person, take care of yourself.

Things will work out and you will grow from the experience.

oldsage's photo
Thu 10/11/07 04:29 PM
Singin, sorry about whatever it was.
Shake it off, not your fauly.
Stuff just happens & life goes on.
Sun will come up tomorrow.

singingmyheartout's photo
Thu 10/11/07 05:51 PM
flowerforyou flowerforyou
Thank you my friends.
I'm just overwhelmed.... life goes on, though... and time for me to do what I do best:
Adapt and survive.

I do believe that what goes around comes around...

I talked to someone outside of JSH while traveling home... and he put things into perspective... as did all of you.

I have an email I need to send... once I figure out the best wat to say it. You guys have been great. flowerforyou flowerforyou
Thanks for caring. :smile:

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 10/11/07 06:43 PM
everything happens for a reason.
good or bad things always have a purpose in life.
it's our duty to find that purpose, and get the best out of it.
And most importantly we need to keep in mind that no matter how dark it is, at the ends always, and i mean always, there is going to be light

freeonthree's photo
Thu 10/11/07 06:50 PM
You need to look forward, not back. Dwelling on the past is not healthyfor any relationship. Simply learn from your mistakes, and the mistakes of others, and use that new knowledge to make your next attemp at love better than the last. Sooner or later, we will all get it right, and live happily ever after.

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 10/11/07 06:50 PM
also sometimes we need to apologize for what happens, because most of the times is not our fault.
the a s s h o l e s who mess things up, usually hide after they messed up things, and the people who are in the middle are the ones who get hurt.
they are not at guilt and they don't suppose to apologize.
the a s s h o l e is the one who suppose to apologize.

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 10/11/07 06:51 PM
i meant we don't need to apologize

no photo
Thu 10/11/07 06:59 PM

You know we will be here for you

no photo
Thu 10/11/07 07:03 PM


Sing,

It sounds like you are going through what I have been going through here lately. Well, although I haven't posted anything about it, only because the parties are on here, I have basically been having the same thoughts too. It is easy to feel like giving up and everything, but hang in there, and one day, that door will open up and behind it will be what you have been looking for forever. I believe it, and so will you, I'm sure. Keep the faith. Take care and my best to you.

singingmyheartout's photo
Thu 10/11/07 07:15 PM
hey...all...
thanks flowerforyou

I'm not giving up or giving in. I'm merely taking the path in life where I settle for nothing and only retain that which is worthwhile.

I do NOT think this was a fault of mine, however, the apology was necessary, as I had an indirect part in it. No one likes to feel betrayed - and in all seriousness, that is not what I am about.

The center point of this issue can keep their issues. They can keep their bull**** lines, and they can kiss my ass if for one second they think I appreciate being played a fool and then avoided/ignored.

So drinker here's to live moving on...drinker and going forward...

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Thu 10/11/07 07:22 PM
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