is it proper to test men for love or you are chasing him away.....so then how do I know a men's motive when you need serious relationship

Use some conventional good judgement.

lose before ya win if u hellbent on testing or pushing someones buttons.all meetings are a risk lotto whatever.ur 2 strangers meeting.let it be and if it don't work so what?plenty more fish etc

on a different note maybe if u feel the need to test every man then u might wanna look inside yaself and see why yer insecure.fixing ones own issues usually makes the rest go smoothly good luck.

@iynnleeds, u right

A man is innocent until proven guilty...and not guilty until proven innocent.

I'm not a genius, but if he ask you what casket size you need......you might wanna run.

I also don't cater to testing people, but it does not hurt to be observant and if you notice things that are a red flag bugger off

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Not really.
If you can't tell and have to rely on tests it means either he doesn't, or communication in the relationship sucks, so even if he does love it's probably doomed anyway.

By testing him the only thing you are communicating is that you don't know how to communicate, which means talking to you about important things and feelings would be pointless.

You ever been to a foreign country where no one speaks your language?
Have you ever tried to get someone to understand you, or they tried to get you to understand them?
You notice that the first steps were more exaggerated arm waving or hand gestures, lots of forceful pointing, hiding frustration behind a smile, slowing down what they say and possibly becoming louder?

That's what testing someone is. Just waving your arms, pointing, raising your voice, and hiding behind a facade in order to get them to try to respond in a way you understand.



You don't.
Ever.
All you can ever do is pay attention to consistent behavior and beliefs, make inferences, and deduce.


Relationships have risks.
Their motives are a risk to you.
You overcome those risks by not doing what you don't want to do, paying attention to what they do, what they try to get you to do, and how they respond to you and everything around them.

There's no easy way that won't work against you in the long run.

well, nothing is certain... but i do the same thing with women, and the ones the don't fail are usually worth keeping...

Ya know, life IS the test.