I'm basically tired of playing games in relationships can I for once find a real and serious woman to be with? I'm sure there's alot of people get catfish or in a relationship that isn't going anywhere which sucks but it's the truth I'm to the point that I'm starting to believe there's no such thing as true love...

if you believe the game is over before you start , then why play ?

Sounding kind of burned out darling
nothing wrong with taking a break for awhile

Sorry to break it to you OP, but I know from direct experience, that "starting to think there's no such thing as true love," is probably the MOST common of all the games people play with themselves.

The game is played by getting depressed and resentful, and kicking the dirt (at least conceptually), and complaining to the invisible gods of chance and reality, in the hope that this will trigger them either to make love pop up out of nowhere, or at least pat you on the back for being so insightful.

Go ahead, it's not a really bad thing to do, it's how many of us rest our emotions after an especially rough go of things. Eventually you'll heal up a little, and realize that you do still WANT love, and then you'll go back and look at the last mess for what not to do next time, and then head back into the fray.

Good luck.

I love playing games in relationships.
Not like consciously with evil manipulative intent. I don't sit there in my black hat twiddling my handlebar mustache saying to myself "hee hee hee...what games shall I play today?! Ohhhhhhh, she's going to get it that fly in my spider web..."

Games can be useful.
They can be a great way to filter things into communication that is easier to understand. Like a Rosetta Stone.
Games are rules with specific outcomes. You roll the dice, you move the number on the dice, you move your piece, all within the framework of a board.
Games create conditions where you can learn about the other person.

When trying to figure out what someone wants, who someone is, what they're thinking, and what they're doing, which is easier, more useful, and less prone to miscommunication:
1. Charades?
2. Having them speak clearly and concisely and patiently in a language you don't understand?

Also, there is nothing more validating when someone points out if I'm playing a game. It means I'm worth having it pointed out to me. Plus, it forces me to draw back and take a closer look at what I'm doing. Kind of shaking things up to make sure I'm not stuck in a routine of manipulative behavior, getting lost in the game, possibly repeating things when I can't understand the other.

And I love pointing out games that others are playing with me.
I like the look on their face, and seeing the thinking process they go through when I do it.


Not without learning to communicate and figuring out that they are a serious woman.

You can't find a "serious" woman and then go from there.
You have to go, and learn whether or not they are a "serious" woman.


What if there isn't such a thing as you define "true love?"
Does that make relationships and women completely pointless?
Do you really believe "true love" is some kind of reward for finding the "right" woman?
You could say that's a game itself.
The "relationship" game.
Play by the rules, you pass go, land on reading womanroad, collect true love.