If your partner is asking you to help him financially, and you can't help him coz you are also in need and striving also to survive financially. Is it mean you don't love and care for him? Is money a measurement of true love?

In my opinion, for guys, money has never been a factor in love. I could have agreed if a women had asked for some financial assistance from her boyfriend and changed course when declined.

*singing....i dont care too much for money, money cant buy me love...
cant buy me la~ov, cant buy me la~ov.......no no no nnoOOOOOhhh.......beatles

What I mean to say, if your bf lend you money and you cant send him coz you are also in need. Is it mean you abandoned him already? And is it a measurement of true care and love?

If you are talking about and on line partner then no it is not mean it is CRAZY. NEVER help and on line partner with ANY financial issues. PERIOD.

If the person is a personal real life friend then again if you are in financial "need" it is crazy to tank yourself because they can not make the needed personal sacrifices to be a self sustaining adult. READ MY LIPS: no exceptions! I don't care if they are handicapped or unemployed, or what ever. Sounds tough but I know for a fact if someone wants to pull themselves up by their bootstraps there are any number of agencies that will help them.

Now if you are a spouse then you have a different situation. You are in effect helping yourself if you help them if it is mutual. BUT this is a huge Red Flag if they are not willing to make sacrifices equal to your own and life is a perpetual drama then cut them loose.

Sure times are hard and you may be eating beans and living in a rented room working any kind of job you can get but two adults should be able to earn enough for that together and slowly improve their life if they don't keep screwing up with some kind of stupidity. YOU CAN"T FIX STUPID OR SELFISH.

Even if one or both are chronically ill (not drunk or high) they should be able to get adequate help anywhere in the USA if they are willing to relocate. May take living in a poor city neighborhood and swallowing your pride and getting assistance but it is there.

Aha..now I get the real story !!

Well, this is tricky. You have to really demonstrate to him you love him heart and soul or else, he could brand you a 'gold-digger' if he was stingy enough.

The onus of making this relationship work is on you now and how you do it, its your call.

Thanks for your input Pacific star ! I learned from you...

Do it does not mean you don't care or love him but you are not able to help me that way. Myself I would never ask anyone for money, I would suffer the consequences or just get a second job.

You should not borrow money from a boyfriend and he should not lend it to a girl friend. If you borrow it then you make the sacrifices to return it even if it means a little bit at a time.

If you take the money and make no effort to return it then you didn't just abandon him you are a thief.

Does it show you don't love him to take his money and make no effort to repay him? Yes. If that is how you treat a boyfriend I sure hate to see how you treat anyone else.

And that goes for where ever you are from.

There is legit work in Manila if you want to look for it and do it when you find it. Might not be glamorous but I have many friends from there and they pay their debts. Female or male.

This is happening on online relationship,and I can sensed its a form of scam

WHAT? Wh-, ........ What planet are you from? There are letters that form words, punctuation, it seems like you understood the question in its state of broken English (no offense op, we understood what you're asking) then you have third and fourth party npc's and you just went off the deep end with no floaties.

Anyway,you can't 'measure' a string if you don't have a ruler or measuring tape, it's short, medium, long or so long you can't see both ends. You can't measure something with something you don't have. Also, the 'unit of measure' has to be appropriate for what you're measuring. There are people who were dirt poor but had love and there are �ber rich people who don't have it. It's not like rating a restaurant from 0-5 stars. Love is immeasurable. A Porsche may mean that a man loves his wife but it could also be a cover for his closet homosexuality. I have seen both cases. Love is also not the same from one lover to the next or from one couple to another.

Ohh so sorry,If my english bothered you! I know, I am not perfect in english like, I feel too pity!

Scam how you took his money first or he expects it back? You keep changing the story . A loan is a loan. Pay the fool and be done with it.

If he is asking for more than you borrowed maybe you have a scam but like I said giving money to anybody on line is C>R>A>Z>Y!

Why doesn't this stand up in court?
Seriously?
PacificStar48 for State Supreme Court Judge, I'll be your campaign manager and bailiff if you win but I'm gonna need medical insurance.

I won't call him a fool. He is probably too good to be true...an innocent gullible man who's unaware of such scams.

Such loans never get paid back...love or no love!

SMFH... This is an emotional manipulation tactic ' if you love me prove it ', The man is a User, a Leech & a scammer.
Anyone who asks for anything material, isn't ready & can not afford to date, & certainly should not be on a date site.
Any man that would ask a woman for money has no dignity for himself & no respect for women. IMO, he is not a man at all.

Please read the full thread before being so harsh on the guy..

No never money and buying gifts can never be a measurement for love and care,,


We can not measure love with anything that is material

Also at the same time when the personae whome we really love is indeed in need,,

Then his or her partner should really help be it financial,, cos love is not only a concern,,,

When required one should really step up and help proactlly,,,


On the other hand it's all emotional feeling,,, the much u r emotionally attached,, u yourself will do the needful...


If a person loves one only because. He or she is rich,,, this is pure lust,,, and m sorry to say this also can be categorised as sophisticated prostitution,, cos sex for money is indeed prostitution be it from a man's side or woman's side

Remind me NOT to post before coffee!
Holy Sh@t.. I just read it a second time.
Carry on. ...Hhhaaaa

Hey sassy please do not post before coffee,,, that is why admin ppl took ur profile pic

Lol