it takes to really know someone ... wow ...some of the stories... I have heard ... one for instance married couple gets divorced... man say I never loved you ...after having a few kid to... say's this ...
now that's if I want to believe the women ... that said he said that ... so how long do you think it takes to know someone ...

can you ever really know anyone ? ? ?
seams some people are better at keeping masks on then others

all depends on the person i would say

how open they are : )

some one like myself that does not lie and will tell you anything not long

but a lot of people are hiden or dont tell you what is on there mind

or fell something is silly and dont want to tell you about it

<shrug>

uhm that didnt answer you Que lol

to me i say what is on my mind , regardless if it makes me look silly or insain <shrug>

most people call it blunt
it a curse and well as a gift
does get me in to a lot of trouble

A whole life time is how you get to know someone in my opinion.

after thought
some people change when they grow
so what you may know today could change by tomorrow

i have learned to grow a little : )
but my core still will all ways be the same , i will change for no one
cause i know if i change then i will not be happy cause i would never be myself

I know that when my squeeze (from here) and I first got together,
we spent hours each day (about 7 calls per) talking to and getting
to know each other before we met, for at least a year.

Quality time, that.
We would talk of everything under the sun, nothing left unsaid.
If you happen upon someone like that, you can get to know them
after a bit, and get a feel for their real self.

Meeting them, of course, really helps too..but I do think it can
be done..build a trust worth working for :-)

I read something years ago that said it took two years to know someone. Of course there are exceptions to that rule both longer and shorter.

I took a hard look at my relationships in the past and decided that two years was pretty damn accurate.

Ironically, I read an article about "deceivers" and a person who is really good at presenting a false image of him/her self can only usually hold up the routine for about two years.

I'm not sure you actually do get to know someone until you live with them.

She would have to have plenty of sympathy for when I get man flu

Seriously, I think it takes time to know what kind of team you will be but I wouldn't like to put a time line on it.

Everything one experiences in life changes them in some way. For better or worse that is just how it is. So they person you know is never going to be fully known to you. I think the trick is to never stop trying to know them, and to recognize and embrace the changes as they happen. Some times these changes might bring people closer together, and unfortunately sometimes it drives them apart. But never stop trying.

Depends on people involved and how forthcoming they may be.

truly knowing someone takes vulnerability and willingness to.put in time and effort to speak as well as listen

those are some good answers ... two yrs or you have to live with them to really know them ... I liked Sofie's when you want to talk ...it seems like forever with someone a far and u do... I would think you would get to know them ... at this point I would say living together is the only way to really know ...people change ... I heard take a long driving trip on vacation with them and you get to know them very well ... I don't know ... how long it takes ... but if your really compatible with them ... that might be when you know...

Hi it would take a bout 1 week to get to know you,inside out.but years to under stadium you,xx

Hi that's called dangling a carat,xx

is that years to understand me ... now I don't understand you lol

See I have this one month rule. I want to talk and get to know you.....see where you hid the bodies of your past ex's and all. And I will do things to see how much they irritate you.....for instance not opening the car door a few times before you go "WTF".

and you assume I hid the bodies ... oh come on I am smarter then that lol and not sure I would be in your car that quick either

But I'm such a nice guy!

your probably right ...how could I resist a goofball ...WTF

For what?

Knowledge is only relevant when it has a purpose towards something.

How long it takes to know someone...well enough to know you want to
date them?

How long it takes to know someone...to accept them?

How long it takes to know someone...to want to marry them?

How long it takes to know someone...to have them parent your children?

How long it takes to know someone...to tell if you want to risk having sex with them?

How long it takes to know someone...to tell them you love them?


Other than that, people aren't static objects that you can come to know absolutely.

People don't even know themselves.

And people that say they do? They don't. They just want to manipulate you into believing they do.
At best they only know certain things about themselves, which may be completely different than what other people come to know.

People can't know themselves. They're too biased having had to develop and maintain a social facade since birth, and try to be "good" people.

Forgot...
If people can't know themselves, they will never accept the possibility that others might know more about them than they do.

I think people change all the time and maybe we should keep studying them because new things come up. They want new things and try stuff you would never think they wouldn't do. I know I have changed over the years.
Life can do some crazy stuff to a person and that changes the way they look at things.
A wise person said to never stop studying the person you love.

how can anyone know someone , when people rarely know themselves , we see everyday , the superficial , narcissistic, eccentric sides , of people just walking the streets . This jaded empty shallow empty society we live in breeds them , I'm in college studies of game art , and course I love is English comp. The best thing ever happen to me is , the subject of "interpersonal communication" teaches the "peeling away of our onion skin " of who we truly are , to get to the very core of our being , its takes , being vulnerable , exposed , and the empting of oneself . what percentage of people you think have ever done that in their lives , being honest here ??? very few , I'd venture to say . "life is a stage everyone plays a part" , especially when we date , don't even talk about dating sites !!its a Zoo !! trust me the facades , mythical characters you find on there one could right a "best seller " .
Only when you get to know you 100% are you able to truly know someone else , and trust me it will take you a lifetime . Many older couples I've talked to around this world in my travels , say the exact same thing , and some have been married 25,30, 40 years to the same person , and they say I'm still learning about her or him . my personal beliefs is you'll never truly know someone , because as we grow we change our philosophies of life by diverse change we experience, in our relationships and ourselves , and how we process that information ,some let it go and move on others hold onto it ,and carry it around like a dead weight , or baggage . how you get to know someone both of you everyday "strip away parts of yourself you want to change for the better ,and we all have our faults and our skeletons in our proverbial closets !!!............why "interpersonal communication " works so well " if you truly want to know yourself and someone else " ....................let it first begin with you !! how long ??? a lifetime journeys my friend !!! a "Life time journey "