Think I've put something in my profile which attracts the wrong type of guys (ie players) can u have a look & tell me if so

Welcome to Mingle.

Hopefully your experience at Mingle may go better.

You are a pretty woman with a decent job but some of the facts you put out there and what you say you are looking for put a BIG target on your back to attract the very people you say you don't want to.

I would drop any reference to "protector". If you are not looking for a sugar daddy you really don't want to confuse "traditional employed breadwinner" with please help keep me off the dole or you can beat on me when you are not beating up some other dude.

Try re-writing your profile and stressing more the smart, responsible, interesting person you are. I am sure you can be a little more descriptive about the kind of music, food, movies, sports or other pass times, lifestyle you really lead than suggesting that bars is one of your lead options. If you are good with numbers and managing that is always popular trait.

If you say you have kids down in your statistics you really don't have to beat the whole pity drum about being a single parent. They guys, who are also in most cases, resent it and the bums start drooling because you have just announced you have already been someone's victim so you are an easier mark.

I would also delete or at least move them into the second row of photos that have even a hint of being night wear. Men have good imaginations so you don't have to be suggestive for them to find you attractive. If you always wear makeup then show at least one nicer photo with it on.

Last but not least I would not fall on my own sword with a screen name that sounds like you are grossly over weight; even if you are. Which looking at your face I seriously doubt. Try something appealing, even Catchy, but up beat.

Know I have suggested a good way to pretty much reinvent your profile but you can do that and I would encourage you to try. If you do stick with this site, which I hope you will, because I think you will be pleasantly surprised after you post in the forums and make a few friends, my guess is you will be a real well liked Mingler. .

OOPS sorry double post. This new speed internet is quick if you type slow.

Thanks I've changed it & will see what happens

I'm just going to jump in here instead of starting my own thread.
I can tell from your advice that my profile is -vastly- different from the thread starter... It's probably different from the majority of profiles. And the thing this difference makes obvious is that almost no one reads my profile before they message me. Oh, plenty of them say they have... But it's clear they haven't... You'll understand how I know after you read it.
Sometimes, depending on my mood, I have replied 'in character' only to receive responses that clearly indicate they didn't even read THAT. This has also happened when I have sent replies as the real me.
Disturbingly, of the very small number of authentic messages I have received, two of them were boys in their early 20s Yes, I am trying the forums, but the steady flow of dreck is undermining my faith in humanity. Other than perhaps my age, I don't think there is anything about my profile that says victim.

Hope you get good response.

From the male perspective - erase the work and "independent" line. Nothing like a woman giving you the impression she is too busy for you and doesn't need you anyway to hinder legitimate interest. Replace it with what you like doing and whether or not you are willing to try new things. And describe those "special times" you want to share. My opinion and I'm no expert.

PacStar maybe right about the name you chose in general but it was what made me curious...

Don't think this gratuitous flattery as I am outside your region - all the way across the pond.

Thanks for ur opinion much appreciated