Is it a good rule of thumb to assume that someone who wants to give you their mobile number or email right away is a scammer? I understand that in some ways this can also be a way to make sure someone is real, but what are you thoughts on this? How has things panned out for you in the past when getting mail messages from a potential partner?

Thanks,

Seekmsright

Or asks for money.
Or are way too young.

I must really dumb in my pictures or perhaps they think I am desperate. Trust me, I'm not desperate.

What could I do with a 20, 30 year old "girl" other than sit on the edge of the bed and tell her how good I use to be. SMIRK

i just laugh when people want me to jump off sight right away

most times they want you to do that so the staff here wont have traces to block them and remove them

its free here to chat
why would i want to go else where

oh well i dont come here often
guess you are not really interested in finding what you are looking for then

and i agree never EVER send anyone money
dont care how sad the story is


i am bad for giving people enough rope to hang them selfs with

saprising how fast they dissapear once they find out that you are not desperate

desperate = easy target

best wishes on your hunt

I find that if anyone is real eager to tell me really personal information like how their wife died, their name (especially if it is a common one) or a phone number that is really easy to look up then it is probably a burner or some empty house phone number on call forward. The mistake is thinking these scammers do not have property or addresses here in the USA. They do or they have figured out how to borrow them for a short time. Heck with the real estate listing providing video tours combined with photo shop I could make anyone I lived about any neighborhood I wanted. I think the newcomers just have to accept they have to hang around a while before they have any credibility. Profiles with one or only two photos are pretty much a dead giveaway. What knocks me out are the guys who claim to be in the military over twenty five years; highly unlikely.

On my profile it states that I will not give any of my personal contact info out until I have spoken to someone for a while on site and I am comfortable, it also says this is not negotiable. If they persist in asking, I block them. If they send me theirs, I ignore it. If someone is not willing to put in the tiny bit of effort it takes to log on here and talk for a while, they are not for me. Yes, I have given out some of my info to a few people on here, and I've made some good friends!

This site is loaded with scammers and fake profiles. I've seen a few that even post a phone number right on their profile. And that's a big red flag.

Here are some factors that raise my guard for scammers

1. They claim they are very attracted to me by reading my profile.
2.However, there is no identification of anything
in my profile leading me to believe they've read it.
3. They are MUCH younger.
4. They tend to be quite attractive.
5. They want to get off site and have personal contact asap.
6. A few days later, they have been booted off the site.
7. If they are from West Africa...it's a nobrainer.

Exactly Suz

get their number first, then google it... the scammers use landlines hooked to computers with a number local to the area...

The biggest clue in for me is when they list a religion and still message me. If they had read my profile at all, that should have scared them off.

That is the best thing I have read all week. Thanks for the laugh.

Actually that wouldn't scare me off since I have some really great friends that don't believe it has never interfered with our relationship..Also dated a guy from TX that was an awesome man his lack of faith or my belief wasn't what split us up.. It was Distance and only distance with work schedules...


As far as Scammers I can tell pretty quick if they are on the up and up..I always ask have you read my profile... Usually that stops them in their tracks...

I love it when they say "I read your profile, I really think you are the one. How old are you, and where are you from?"

I'm not saying it's not possible. I do have a few friends that are religious. Most of the time, we just agree to disagree on that subject. However, it is a first clue.

I get some men that after a couple of messages give me their email and/or phone. I don't ask for it and I don't respond to that. I want to correspond through messages for a while to get to someone but everyone is in such a hurry. I don't think these people are scammers, I just think they are so desperate to have a relationship.

It could be either one.

Why do you need to create a rule of thumb?

Is it really that difficult to put some thought into a profile, picture, and a couple of emails, as well as figure out if you really want to give someone your personal contact information?


The only way to make sure someone is real is to meet them in person.
Everything else is just a false sense of security.


In general not that well, if the measure of "panning out" means I get into a relationship and no longer sign onto online dating sites.

Just wanted to throw this out there because I have been getting quite a few messages saying hey you want to text? or if you message me then I can give you my email or phone number so we can write or text there. I did not respond, but I am like wow is there really that many fake people.

Thanks for all the responses so far. It is interesting reading about others experiences and to see what other "tricks" folks have encountered along the way.

Thanks

Sometimes they are fun to mess with. Just put random words into a message and send it to them. Watch how they respond.

This is the fun way to get things going... I shouldn't admit it is fun to play